Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
10 practicesHow long you have
Who it is written for · Me
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme · Facing it a step at a time
It helps to have one small set of moves you use whatever the worry is wearing today. Not a fresh technique for each fear, just the same few steps, learned well enough to reach for without thinking.
Anxiety changes costume. This month it is contamination, next month it is being late, next year it is your health. If every version needs its own…
Coming back after a bad patch is quicker than getting there was the first time. Most people expect the opposite, which is why a setback feels so final.
What you learned did not vanish. It went out of reach for a while, usually because something else was going on in your life. Pick up a rung or two…
The early rungs do not have to be the real thing. A photograph, a video, or picturing it carefully with your eyes shut is a proper step and not a cheat.
This matters most when the real version is out of reach: the dog you cannot summon, the flight you cannot afford, the classroom that is thirty miles…
Start with the body. Slow breathing, muscles let go one at a time, a piece of music, a familiar object in a pocket. Small levers, and they turn fear from something happening to you into something you are doing something about.
Children in particular notice the body first: the racing heart, the sick stomach, the tight chest. That is the part they are actually frightened of.…
Solve the problem without leaving the situation. Change where you sit in the canteen, who you sit with, what you bring with you, but stay in the canteen.
Otherwise a good problem solving session quietly becomes a plan for avoiding more skilfully. The test is simple. Does this option keep me in the…
Before a step, write down what you will do when the fear arrives. Which breathing, what you will say to yourself, who you will speak to. Nobody invents a plan in the moment, they only follow one.
Keep it short and specific enough to be followed while frightened. It also gives you something to go over afterwards: what you used, what you forgot,…
When something frightens you the mind offers one option: do not go. Force out two or three more before judging any of them, daft ones included. Choosing needs something to choose between.
There is an order that works. Say what the problem actually is, in one sentence. List some options without weighing them yet. Then go through what is…
Put a number on each step, nought to ten, and let it be your number. Two people facing the same school will not agree about which part is worst, and the ladder has to belong to the person climbing it.
One child dreads the bus and is fine once inside the building. Another would happily ride the bus all morning and cannot get through the front door.…
Panic rarely comes out of nowhere. It usually lands on a body already short of sleep, running on coffee and eating at odd hours, so whatever tipped it over did not have far to push.
This is not a telling off about your habits. It is that the same argument or deadline arrives very differently at a rested body than at a wrecked…
Stay with a step until it stops being interesting. Not until you have survived it once, but until it is ordinary, and then move up.
Moving on too early turns the ladder into a run of narrow escapes, and each escape teaches that you got out just in time. The marker worth waiting…
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