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Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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4 practices

When you go numb Me On my own Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 3

Who it is written for · Me

A practitioner 4 Me 4 My husband or wife 3

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 3 Coping, mostly 1

On your own, or with someone · On my own

On my own 4 Involves someone else 1

Theme · When you go numb

Your nervous system 105Medication and how it works 82 What anger actually is 78 The moment before you snap 76 Choosing your response 73 Get started 65 Systems for daily life 62 Grounding and settling 59 Equanimity and perspective 57 The fear underneath anger 56 Cool the body first 55 Touch and bodywork 52 Your sense of time 52 Food, caffeine and fuel 49 Moving your body 48 Bringing the future closer 46 What ADHD actually is 42 Exercise, food and other supports 41 When everything feels flat 39 Feelings and focus 37 Practising under provocation 36 Staying regulated in conflict 36 Shame and stigma 30 Treatment and medication 29 Making it stick 29 Screens and attention 28 Breathing 28 Getting assessed and diagnosed 28 Structure and routine 24 Feeling from the inside 23 Tolerate distress 23 Being seen and judged 22 What worry does 21 What you are actually defending 21 Growing empathy 20 Remembering to do it 20 Treatment and medication 20 When you use something to cope 18 Answering bids 13 Fondness and admiration 13 Breaking the worry loop 13 Obsessions and compulsions 12 Self-compassion 12 Emotions as signals 12 Righteous anger and perfectionism 12 Question the thought 11 Facing it a step at a time 10 Knowing your partner 10 Shame 10 Use your strengths 9 Posture and how you carry yourself 8 Repair after rupture 8 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 Gratitude 7 Shared spiritual life 7 When anger turns to harm 5 Letting it out safely 4 When you go numb 4 Living with uncertainty 4 Meaning after harm 4 Your worth is not conditional 3 Name what you feel 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Let the wave come 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Rest and pacing 3 Safety and grounding 3 Act on your values 3 Working with anger 3 Calm the body 3 Your window of tolerance 2 Work with your brain 2 Rituals of connection 2 Ride the urge 2 Patience and trust 2 Find meaning 2 Get it out of your head 2 Face it gently 2 Affection and touch 2 Hold a boundary 2 Keep the bond 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Listen to the body 2 Validate yourself and others 1 Listening and understanding 1 Panic and the body 1 The cost of avoiding 1

When

Any ordinary day 3 After a row 1

Ask what is happening in the body right now, in the moment it happens, rather than asking afterwards what the feeling was.

A shutdown is quickest to catch while it is switching on. The question that works is small and physical: what is happening in your chest, your…

A minuteWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 16:78

When someone says they feel nothing, find out where the nothing reaches. All the time, or only towards good things, or only here, in this conversation, when criticism is in the air?

The three answers point in quite different directions. Numb everywhere, day and night, is worth taking to a doctor. Numb to good things while the bad…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 50:37

If a medicine has taken the edge off everything, including the good things, that is worth raising with whoever prescribed it. Taking the sharpness out of pain is one thing. Feeling nothing at all is not a way to live.

It matters practically as well as personally. Anything you are trying to change, in a relationship or in yourself, needs some feeling to work with,…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 6:122

Going still and needing nothing is usually something a person worked out young, somewhere it was the sensible answer.

If reaching out met dismissal, or worse, then not reaching out is not a flaw of character. A child who stops asking, stops showing what they feel and…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 57:16

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