Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

4 practices

Living with uncertainty Me On my own Clear all

How long you have

Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 1 Longer 1

Who it is written for · Me

Me 4 A practitioner 4 Someone I care about 1

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 3 Coping, mostly 1

On your own, or with someone · On my own

On my own 4 Involves someone else 1

Theme · Living with uncertainty

Your nervous system 105Medication and how it works 82 What anger actually is 78 The moment before you snap 76 Choosing your response 73 Get started 65 Systems for daily life 62 Grounding and settling 59 Equanimity and perspective 57 The fear underneath anger 56 Cool the body first 55 Your sense of time 52 Touch and bodywork 52 Food, caffeine and fuel 49 Moving your body 48 Bringing the future closer 46 What ADHD actually is 42 Exercise, food and other supports 41 When everything feels flat 39 Feelings and focus 37 Staying regulated in conflict 36 Practising under provocation 36 Shame and stigma 30 Treatment and medication 29 Making it stick 29 Screens and attention 28 Breathing 28 Getting assessed and diagnosed 28 Structure and routine 24 Feeling from the inside 23 Tolerate distress 23 Being seen and judged 22 What you are actually defending 21 What worry does 21 Treatment and medication 20 Remembering to do it 20 Growing empathy 20 When you use something to cope 18 Answering bids 13 Fondness and admiration 13 Breaking the worry loop 13 Self-compassion 12 Emotions as signals 12 Obsessions and compulsions 12 Righteous anger and perfectionism 12 Question the thought 11 Facing it a step at a time 10 Knowing your partner 10 Shame 10 Use your strengths 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 Posture and how you carry yourself 8 Repair after rupture 8 Shared spiritual life 7 Gratitude 7 When anger turns to harm 5 When you go numb 4 Letting it out safely 4 Meaning after harm 4 Living with uncertainty 4 Act on your values 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Rest and pacing 3 Safety and grounding 3 Let the wave come 3 Working with anger 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Name what you feel 3 Calm the body 3 Listen to the body 2 Get it out of your head 2 Patience and trust 2 Ride the urge 2 Find meaning 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Work with your brain 2 Affection and touch 2 Face it gently 2 Hold a boundary 2 Keep the bond 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Rituals of connection 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Panic and the body 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Listening and understanding 1 Validate yourself and others 1

When

Any ordinary day 3 In a change 1

Listen for the condition you have attached to acting: I will apply once I know I will get it, I will go once I know I will like it. If that condition could never actually be met, it is not caution, it is a door you have quietly locked.

From the inside it rarely feels like avoidance. It feels sensible, even responsible, because who would go to all that trouble without knowing. The…

Five minutesLiving with uncertaintyCBTQur’an 31:34

A no is usually information about fit rather than a report on your worth. Some of them have to happen before you can tell which places are right for you.

This is a real reframe rather than a comforting one, because a rejection does carry usable information: about what they were after, about what you…

Five minutesLiving with uncertaintyCBTQur’an 2:216

When something feels unbearable to risk, follow it downwards. If that did happen, what would it mean, and what would happen after that?

Keep asking gently, and stop when you reach something that is a statement about the person rather than about the situation, such as it would prove I…

Twenty minutesLiving with uncertaintyCBTQur’an 18:78

An exam is a task with requirements. It is not a ruling on whether you are capable, however much it feels like one while you are sitting inside it.

Saying that once changes very little. The person this comes from took a long time to arrive at it, and that is worth knowing so you do not expect it…

LongerLiving with uncertaintyCBTQur’an 57:23

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