Practices

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When anger turns to harm Someone I care about On my own Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 4 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for · Someone I care about

A practitioner 7 Someone I care about 6 Me 5

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 4 Struggling right now 2

On your own, or with someone · On my own

Both of us together 7 On my own 6

Theme · When anger turns to harm

Your nervous system 83 Systems for daily life 60 What anger actually is 57 Grounding and settling 48 Moving your body 47 What ADHD actually is 47 Your sense of time 46 Medication and how it works 46 The fear underneath anger 45 Exercise, food and other supports 44 Equanimity and perspective 42 Cool the body first 41 Treatment and medication 33 Bringing the future closer 30 Shame and stigma 29 Get started 24 Breathing 23 What worry does 23 The moment before you snap 21 Screens and attention 20 Structure and routine 20 Remembering to do it 20 What you are actually defending 19 Food, caffeine and fuel 15 Feelings and focus 14 Making it stick 14 Tolerate distress 13 Breaking the worry loop 13 When you use something to cope 12 Reading, numbers and learning differences 12 Self-compassion 11 Growing empathy 10 Choosing your response 9 Righteous anger and perfectionism 8 When everything feels flat 8 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 Use your strengths 7 Facing it a step at a time 7 When anger turns to harm 6 Practising under provocation 5 Shame 4 Letting it out safely 4 Being seen and judged 3 Getting assessed and diagnosed 2 Question the thought 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Obsessions and compulsions 1 Feeling from the inside 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Rest and pacing 1

When

Under stress 2 After a row 2 Any ordinary day 2

Whatever is driving it, behaviour that frightens someone is frightening. The reason behind it does not soften what it was like to stand on the other side of it.

Two people can do something that looks identical from outside and mean quite different things by it. That difference matters for what will help the…

A minuteWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 24:15

Harm that comes out of feeling threatened and harm that is done coldly, to get something, are not one problem wearing two faces. Before deciding what would help, work out which one you are looking at.

The first kind runs hot. A person feels cornered, the body goes off, and the damage is done inside a few seconds. The second is quiet and aimed, with…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 42:42

The person you love and the person who frightened you are one person, and you are not obliged to decide which of them is the real one. Both were in the room.

People tend to collapse this in one direction or the other. Either the frightening one is the truth and every kind thing was an act, or the kind one…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:110

Imagining revenge is ordinary and on its own tells you very little. What matters is whether it has started collecting details: a particular person, a method, a time, something bought or moved.

Almost everybody who is furious has run some version of a scene in their head, and treating that as alarming only teaches people not to mention it.…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 11:112

Before anything else, take seriously what self-injury is doing for a person. Pain in the body can be easier to hold than pain in the mind, and a hurt you chose yourself can feel like control coming back.

There are other honest reasons too. It can switch the world off for a while, or hold up a kind of armour: nobody can hurt me worse than I already do,…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 28:77

If the harm has only ever happened when someone had been drinking, the drinking is not the background to an anger problem. It is the anger problem.

Families often know this long before anyone says it aloud: he is fine, except. Go through it honestly, every incident, drunk or sober, and if…

Twenty minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:29

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