Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Being seen and judged Someone I care about On my own Clear all

How long you have

Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 1 Longer 1

Who it is written for · Someone I care about

Me 22 A practitioner 21 Someone I care about 3

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 2 Struggling right now 1

On your own, or with someone · On my own

On my own 3 Both of us together 1 Involves someone else 1

Theme · Being seen and judged

Your nervous system 83 Systems for daily life 60 What anger actually is 57 Grounding and settling 48 Moving your body 47 What ADHD actually is 47 Your sense of time 46 Medication and how it works 46 The fear underneath anger 45 Exercise, food and other supports 44 Equanimity and perspective 42 Cool the body first 41 Treatment and medication 33 Bringing the future closer 30 Shame and stigma 29 Get started 24 Breathing 23 What worry does 23 The moment before you snap 21 Screens and attention 20 Remembering to do it 20 Structure and routine 20 What you are actually defending 19 Food, caffeine and fuel 15 Making it stick 14 Feelings and focus 14 Tolerate distress 13 Breaking the worry loop 13 Reading, numbers and learning differences 12 When you use something to cope 12 Self-compassion 11 Growing empathy 10 Choosing your response 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 Righteous anger and perfectionism 8 When everything feels flat 8 Facing it a step at a time 7 Use your strengths 7 When anger turns to harm 6 Practising under provocation 5 Shame 4 Letting it out safely 4 Being seen and judged 3 The cost of avoiding 2 Question the thought 2 Getting assessed and diagnosed 2 Living with uncertainty 1 Feeling from the inside 1 Rest and pacing 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1

The steps that actually shift this are boring. Booking your own appointment, answering a call you would rather ignore, saying something to the person at the till.

People bracing for treatment often imagine being made to give a speech or walk into a party. It is almost never that. It is the same small…

Five minutesBeing seen and judgedNarrativeQur’an 25:63

Sometimes a parent who seemed cold or impossible to please turns out to have been working with a different wiring altogether. Learning that can loosen something no amount of arguing with yourself would.

One young woman spent years reading her father's behaviour as a verdict on her, and later came to understand him as autistic, which she had never…

Twenty minutesBeing seen and judgedNarrativeQur’an 49:12

You will probably not feel yourself getting better. One day you will be halfway through a chat with a stranger and realise you are doing the thing you could not do.

This is worth knowing at the start, because the middle is where people decide nothing is happening and stop. The change comes in pieces too small to…

LongerBeing seen and judgedNarrativeQur’an 50:39

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