Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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4 practices

Shame Someone I care about On my own Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for · Someone I care about

A practitioner 10 Me 10 Someone I care about 4 My husband or wife 1

On your own, or with someone · On my own

Both of us together 6 On my own 4

Theme · Shame

Your nervous system 83 Systems for daily life 60 What anger actually is 57 Grounding and settling 48 Moving your body 47 What ADHD actually is 47 Your sense of time 46 Medication and how it works 46 The fear underneath anger 45 Exercise, food and other supports 44 Equanimity and perspective 42 Cool the body first 41 Treatment and medication 33 Bringing the future closer 30 Shame and stigma 29 Get started 24 Breathing 23 What worry does 23 The moment before you snap 21 Screens and attention 20 Remembering to do it 20 Structure and routine 20 What you are actually defending 19 Food, caffeine and fuel 15 Making it stick 14 Feelings and focus 14 Tolerate distress 13 Breaking the worry loop 13 Reading, numbers and learning differences 12 When you use something to cope 12 Self-compassion 11 Growing empathy 10 Choosing your response 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 Righteous anger and perfectionism 8 When everything feels flat 8 Facing it a step at a time 7 Use your strengths 7 When anger turns to harm 6 Practising under provocation 5 Shame 4 Letting it out safely 4 Being seen and judged 3 The cost of avoiding 2 Question the thought 2 Getting assessed and diagnosed 2 Living with uncertainty 1 Feeling from the inside 1 Rest and pacing 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1

When

Any ordinary day 3 Under stress 1

Shame is visible before it is spoken. Shallow breath, eyes down, shoulders curling in, a voice gone small: the body says it first.

Learn your own version so you can catch it early, and learn to spot it in others without pointing at it like a diagnosis. When you notice the…

A minuteShameTrauma informedQur’an 20:121

Shame speaks in one flat sentence: I am bad. Notice that it never offers evidence, it just announces a verdict.

Because the claim covers all of you, no good day can disprove it. That is what makes it different from ordinary regret, which points at one thing you…

Five minutesShameTrauma informedQur’an 95:4

You were the child. They were the adults. Say it as often as you need to, because shame will keep quietly filing it the other way round.

It is not an argument to win, more a fact to keep returning to. When a memory arrives with you cast as the guilty one, try describing the same scene…

Five minutesShameTrauma informedQur’an 49:11

When a child cannot stop what is happening, the mind often settles on the one explanation that leaves some control: it must be me. Being powerless and being at fault are not the same thing, though they can feel identical.

Try separating what was genuinely within your reach at that age from what you assumed, or were told, was your job. A child cannot make a parent stop…

Twenty minutesShameTrauma informedQur’an 2:286

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