Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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When anger turns to harm On my own Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 2

Who it is written for

A practitioner 3 Me 2 Someone I care about 2

On your own, or with someone · On my own

Both of us together 3 On my own 3

Theme · When anger turns to harm

Your nervous system 81 Medication and how it works 69 Get started 61 Systems for daily life 52 What anger actually is 50 Your sense of time 48 Food, caffeine and fuel 43 The moment before you snap 42 Choosing your response 41 Exercise, food and other supports 40 Moving your body 37 What ADHD actually is 35 Treatment and medication 34 Equanimity and perspective 33 Bringing the future closer 33 Grounding and settling 31 The fear underneath anger 30 When everything feels flat 29 Screens and attention 28 Touch and bodywork 27 Structure and routine 25 Getting assessed and diagnosed 25 Practising under provocation 24 Shame and stigma 22 Feelings and focus 22 Making it stick 20 Cool the body first 19 What worry does 19 Treatment and medication 19 Being seen and judged 18 Breathing 17 Growing empathy 17 Remembering to do it 17 Feeling from the inside 15 When you use something to cope 15 What you are actually defending 13 Reading, numbers and learning differences 12 Fondness and admiration 12 Tolerate distress 10 Righteous anger and perfectionism 10 Answering bids 10 Obsessions and compulsions 10 Staying regulated in conflict 9 Knowing your partner 8 Self-compassion 8 Use your strengths 8 Shared spiritual life 7 Breaking the worry loop 7 Facing it a step at a time 7 Gratitude 7 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Question the thought 6 Emotions as signals 6 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 Shame 4 When anger turns to harm 3 When you go numb 3 Living with uncertainty 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Work with your brain 2 Repair after rupture 2 Rest and pacing 2 Meaning after harm 2 Keep the bond 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Act on your values 2 Face it gently 2 Affection and touch 1 Listen to the body 1 Listening and understanding 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Panic and the body 1 Safety and grounding 1 Rebuilding trust 1 Your window of tolerance 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 3 Under stress 2 After a row 2

Harm that comes out of feeling threatened and harm that is done coldly, to get something, are not one problem wearing two faces. Before deciding what would help, work out which one you are looking at.

The first kind runs hot. A person feels cornered, the body goes off, and the damage is done inside a few seconds. The second is quiet and aimed, with…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 42:42

Some of what a person does to a partner is not defence and not temper. It is a script they watched at home, absorbed as ordinary, and never once held up to the light.

The tell is that it does not feel like a decision. There was no rush of heat and no sense of crossing a line, because at some level this is simply…

Twenty minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:19

If the harm has only ever happened when someone had been drinking, the drinking is not the background to an anger problem. It is the anger problem.

Families often know this long before anyone says it aloud: he is fine, except. Go through it honestly, every incident, drunk or sober, and if…

Twenty minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:29

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