Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

2 practices

Repair after rupture On my own Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for

My husband or wife 2 Me 2

On your own, or with someone · On my own

On my own 2 Involves someone else 1

Theme · Repair after rupture

Your nervous system 81 Medication and how it works 69 Get started 61 Systems for daily life 52 What anger actually is 50 Your sense of time 48 Food, caffeine and fuel 43 The moment before you snap 42 Choosing your response 41 Exercise, food and other supports 40 Moving your body 37 What ADHD actually is 35 Treatment and medication 34 Equanimity and perspective 33 Bringing the future closer 33 Grounding and settling 31 The fear underneath anger 30 When everything feels flat 29 Screens and attention 28 Touch and bodywork 27 Structure and routine 25 Getting assessed and diagnosed 25 Practising under provocation 24 Shame and stigma 22 Feelings and focus 22 Making it stick 20 Treatment and medication 19 Cool the body first 19 What worry does 19 Being seen and judged 18 Breathing 17 Remembering to do it 17 Growing empathy 17 When you use something to cope 15 Feeling from the inside 15 What you are actually defending 13 Reading, numbers and learning differences 12 Fondness and admiration 12 Obsessions and compulsions 10 Answering bids 10 Tolerate distress 10 Righteous anger and perfectionism 10 Staying regulated in conflict 9 Self-compassion 8 Knowing your partner 8 Use your strengths 8 Gratitude 7 Shared spiritual life 7 Facing it a step at a time 7 Breaking the worry loop 7 Emotions as signals 6 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Question the thought 6 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 Shame 4 When anger turns to harm 3 When you go numb 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Living with uncertainty 3 Get it out of your head 2 Face it gently 2 Keep the bond 2 Act on your values 2 Repair after rupture 2 Find meaning 2 Rest and pacing 2 Work with your brain 2 Meaning after harm 2 Affection and touch 1 Rebuilding trust 1 Panic and the body 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Safety and grounding 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Listening and understanding 1 Listen to the body 1 The cost of avoiding 1

When · Any ordinary day

After a row 6 Any ordinary day 2

Rebuild trust today with one small, consistent, kept action rather than a grand promise.

Trust returns in tiny reliable acts, not speeches. Do the small thing you said, again.

A minuteRepair after ruptureEmotionally focusedQur’an 23:8

Where the harm has truly stopped, begin to set down a grievance you have carried.

Not forgetting, releasing. Once the wound is no longer being made, let it start to close.

Twenty minutesRepair after ruptureEmotionally focusedQur’an 24:22

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