Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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When anger turns to harm On my own Under stress Clear all

Who it is written for

Someone I care about 2 A practitioner 2 Me 2

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 1 Coping, mostly 1

On your own, or with someone · On my own

Both of us together 4 On my own 2

Theme · When anger turns to harm

The moment before you snap 30 Cool the body first 30 Grounding and settling 27 Choosing your response 26 Touch and bodywork 22 Your nervous system 20 What anger actually is 18 The fear underneath anger 15 Equanimity and perspective 14 Tolerate distress 10 Breathing 10 Feelings and focus 9 Staying regulated in conflict 9 Feeling from the inside 8 Moving your body 7 Medication and how it works 7 Practising under provocation 7 Making it stick 6 Systems for daily life 6 Bringing the future closer 6 Question the thought 5 Shame 5 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Breaking the worry loop 5 What worry does 5 Facing it a step at a time 4 Shame and stigma 4 What you are actually defending 4 Treatment and medication 4 Letting it out safely 4 When everything feels flat 4 Get started 4 Calm the body 3 Emotions as signals 3 Growing empathy 3 Let the wave come 3 Name what you feel 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Working with anger 3 Your sense of time 2 Screens and attention 2 Safety and grounding 2 Ride the urge 2 Patience and trust 2 Exercise, food and other supports 2 Meaning after harm 2 Knowing your partner 2 Getting assessed and diagnosed 2 When you use something to cope 2 Being seen and judged 2 Answering bids 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Self-compassion 2 Listen to the body 1 Reading, numbers and learning differences 1 Act on your values 1 Remembering to do it 1 Validate yourself and others 1 What ADHD actually is 1 Rebuild trust 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Panic and the body 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Affection and touch 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Care for yourself in loss 1

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 3 Under stress 2 After a row 2

Imagining revenge is ordinary and on its own tells you very little. What matters is whether it has started collecting details: a particular person, a method, a time, something bought or moved.

Almost everybody who is furious has run some version of a scene in their head, and treating that as alarming only teaches people not to mention it.…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 11:112

Before anything else, take seriously what self-injury is doing for a person. Pain in the body can be easier to hold than pain in the mind, and a hurt you chose yourself can feel like control coming back.

There are other honest reasons too. It can switch the world off for a while, or hold up a kind of armour: nobody can hurt me worse than I already do,…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 28:77

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