Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Growing empathy On my own Under stress Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 1 Longer 1

Who it is written for

Me 3 A practitioner 3 Someone I care about 2

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 2 Coping, mostly 1

On your own, or with someone · On my own

On my own 3 Involves someone else 1

Theme · Growing empathy

Cool the body first 30 The moment before you snap 30 Grounding and settling 27 Choosing your response 26 Touch and bodywork 22 Your nervous system 20 What anger actually is 18 The fear underneath anger 15 Equanimity and perspective 14 Breathing 10 Tolerate distress 10 Feelings and focus 9 Staying regulated in conflict 9 Feeling from the inside 8 Moving your body 7 Practising under provocation 7 Medication and how it works 7 Systems for daily life 6 Bringing the future closer 6 Making it stick 6 What worry does 5 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Shame 5 Question the thought 5 Breaking the worry loop 5 Shame and stigma 4 Get started 4 Facing it a step at a time 4 What you are actually defending 4 Letting it out safely 4 When everything feels flat 4 Treatment and medication 4 Calm the body 3 Emotions as signals 3 Growing empathy 3 Let the wave come 3 Name what you feel 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Working with anger 3 Your sense of time 2 Screens and attention 2 Safety and grounding 2 Ride the urge 2 Patience and trust 2 Exercise, food and other supports 2 Meaning after harm 2 Knowing your partner 2 Getting assessed and diagnosed 2 When you use something to cope 2 Being seen and judged 2 Answering bids 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Self-compassion 2 Listen to the body 1 Validate yourself and others 1 What ADHD actually is 1 Reading, numbers and learning differences 1 Act on your values 1 Remembering to do it 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Affection and touch 1 Rebuild trust 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Panic and the body 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Care for yourself in loss 1

Approach

Body based 1 CBT 1 Medical and treatment 1

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 17 Under stress 3

When you are already angry, imagining your way into someone else's head asks the tired part of you to do the heavy lifting. Start with your body instead: look at their face, let your breathing and your shoulders come closer to theirs.

Perspective taking is a fine skill on a calm day. In the middle of a row it tends to slide into arguing with a version of the other person you have…

A minuteGrowing empathyBody basedQur’an 9:128

Underneath both versions sits the same small dread: somebody being displeased with you. That is the thing to practise surviving, and it does get easier.

Start where it is cheap. Send back the wrong order. Say you would rather not, once, to a person who will be mildly annoyed and nothing worse. Sit…

Five minutesGrowing empathyCBTQur’an 7:156

If you are around people constantly and falling out with them constantly, a quiet weekend on your own may do more for your temper than any conversation will.

Company loses its flavour when there is never a break in it, and irritation fills the gap. A deliberate stretch alone, a day or a weekend, lets you…

LongerGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 28:24

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