Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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4 practices

Letting it out safely On my own Under stress Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 2

Who it is written for

A practitioner 4 Someone I care about 4 Me 4

Theme · Letting it out safely

The moment before you snap 30 Cool the body first 30 Grounding and settling 27 Choosing your response 26 Touch and bodywork 22 Your nervous system 20 What anger actually is 18 The fear underneath anger 15 Equanimity and perspective 14 Tolerate distress 10 Breathing 10 Staying regulated in conflict 9 Feelings and focus 9 Feeling from the inside 8 Practising under provocation 7 Moving your body 7 Medication and how it works 7 Making it stick 6 Bringing the future closer 6 Systems for daily life 6 Question the thought 5 Shame 5 Breaking the worry loop 5 What worry does 5 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Get started 4 Facing it a step at a time 4 Shame and stigma 4 Treatment and medication 4 Letting it out safely 4 What you are actually defending 4 When everything feels flat 4 Emotions as signals 3 Calm the body 3 Growing empathy 3 Let the wave come 3 Name what you feel 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Working with anger 3 Your sense of time 2 Screens and attention 2 Safety and grounding 2 Ride the urge 2 Patience and trust 2 Exercise, food and other supports 2 Meaning after harm 2 Knowing your partner 2 Getting assessed and diagnosed 2 When you use something to cope 2 Being seen and judged 2 Answering bids 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Self-compassion 2 Listen to the body 1 Reading, numbers and learning differences 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Remembering to do it 1 Rebuild trust 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Validate yourself and others 1 What ADHD actually is 1 Panic and the body 1 Act on your values 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Affection and touch 1

There is motion sitting inside the word emotion. Big feelings come out through the body, so if you cannot keep still while you are grieving, that is the feeling moving rather than something going wrong with you.

Think how strange it would be if someone heard they had come into a fortune and just said thank you and carried on with the morning. Joy gets up and…

A minuteLetting it out safelyGriefQur’an 12:84

Punching something to get the anger out is the piece of grief advice that gets argued over most, and the honest answer is that hitting rarely leaves a person calmer.

Plenty of good people will tell you a bag is better than a wall or a face, and there is something in that. What has not held up is the older idea…

Five minutesLetting it out safelyGriefQur’an 14:26

Give the anger a room rather than a target. Music up loud, walk fast, dance badly, shake your arms out until something in you settles.

Some children's grief centres keep a padded room where a child can go in and move however they need to, with nothing to hit and nothing to break.…

Twenty minutesLetting it out safelyGriefQur’an 10:12

Write the exact thing you are furious about on a paper plate, tape it to the wall, and throw wet cotton balls at it. It sounds childish, and it does more than swinging at nothing.

Half the good of it is in the writing. Vague anger has to become a sentence before it can go on the plate, and reading that sentence back usually…

Twenty minutesLetting it out safelyGriefQur’an 38:41

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