Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

8 practices

Feeling from the inside On my own Under stress Clear all

How long you have

A minute 2 Five minutes 6

Who it is written for

Me 8 A practitioner 8 Someone I care about 1

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 6 Coping, mostly 2

On your own, or with someone · On my own

On my own 8 Involves someone else 1

Theme · Feeling from the inside

The moment before you snap 30 Cool the body first 30 Grounding and settling 27 Choosing your response 26 Touch and bodywork 22 Your nervous system 20 What anger actually is 18 The fear underneath anger 15 Equanimity and perspective 14 Breathing 10 Tolerate distress 10 Staying regulated in conflict 9 Feelings and focus 9 Feeling from the inside 8 Medication and how it works 7 Practising under provocation 7 Moving your body 7 Making it stick 6 Systems for daily life 6 Bringing the future closer 6 Question the thought 5 What worry does 5 Shame 5 Breaking the worry loop 5 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Shame and stigma 4 When everything feels flat 4 What you are actually defending 4 Letting it out safely 4 Facing it a step at a time 4 Treatment and medication 4 Get started 4 Calm the body 3 Emotions as signals 3 Growing empathy 3 Let the wave come 3 Name what you feel 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Working with anger 3 Your sense of time 2 Screens and attention 2 Safety and grounding 2 Ride the urge 2 Patience and trust 2 Exercise, food and other supports 2 Meaning after harm 2 Knowing your partner 2 Getting assessed and diagnosed 2 When you use something to cope 2 Being seen and judged 2 Answering bids 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Self-compassion 2 Listen to the body 1 Reading, numbers and learning differences 1 Act on your values 1 Validate yourself and others 1 What ADHD actually is 1 Remembering to do it 1 Rebuild trust 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Affection and touch 1 Panic and the body 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Care for yourself in loss 1

Approach

Mindfulness 4 Body based 4

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 15 Under stress 8

One of the earliest signs that you are drifting out of the present is that your hands and feet go vague. Not numb exactly, just less there.

It tends to happen before you notice you have gone anywhere. If you learn your own version of it, you get an early warning: a chance to press your…

A minuteFeeling from the insideBody basedQur’an 41:53

When what is happening inside gets too loud, turn outward. Name what you can see, listen for the furthest sound, press your feet into the floor.

This is not avoidance. The outward senses and the sense of where your body sits both carry information about now, which is exactly what the flooding…

A minuteFeeling from the insideBody basedQur’an 9:118

If you are going to bring attention to your body, start with where your body is rather than what it feels. Feet on the floor, back against the chair, the weight of your hands in your lap.

Attention to the inside, the chest, the stomach, the throat, sits close to the emotional wiring and can open more than you meant to open. Position in…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideBody basedQur’an 51:21

One question does a lot of work: is what my body is doing right now a fair match for what is actually in front of me? Ask it plainly, and let the answer be either yes or no.

The point is not to talk yourself out of the feeling. The signal is information and it deserves a hearing. But you can hold it up against the room…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideBody basedQur’an 12:53

Picture what you feel as weather. A clear morning, a wind picking up, a storm sitting on the far hills. Weather is real, and weather moves.

The useful part is the distance. You are the field, not the storm. And every kind of weather in the picture is on its way somewhere, which quietly…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 39:23

If something will not shift, pair it with the breath: 'I am' as you breathe in, 'letting go' as you breathe out. Let the out breath be the longer one.

Giving the mind two short phrases to hold occupies it just enough that it stops arguing with the feeling. Meanwhile the long exhale does its own…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 13:28

Let the uncomfortable thing be uncomfortable, without arguing with it. People are often surprised by the relief that follows.

Much of what makes a bad feeling unbearable is the second layer: the objecting, the wishing it gone, the fear that it means something about you. Drop…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 12:86

You are allowed to move. Wiggle your toes, rub one arm from shoulder to hand, put a palm on your chest. A body that is doing something is much easier to feel than one held still.

Sitting perfectly still and waiting for sensation is hard work if you are numb, and it often ends with the conclusion that you are broken at this.…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 89:27

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