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Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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4 practices

When everything feels flat On my own Under stress Clear all

How long you have

A minute 2 Five minutes 1 Longer 1

Who it is written for

Me 4 A practitioner 4 Someone I care about 2

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 3 Coping, mostly 1

On your own, or with someone · On my own

On my own 4 Both of us together 2

Theme · When everything feels flat

Cool the body first 30 The moment before you snap 30 Grounding and settling 27 Choosing your response 26 Touch and bodywork 22 Your nervous system 20 What anger actually is 18 The fear underneath anger 15 Equanimity and perspective 14 Breathing 10 Tolerate distress 10 Staying regulated in conflict 9 Feelings and focus 9 Feeling from the inside 8 Medication and how it works 7 Moving your body 7 Practising under provocation 7 Bringing the future closer 6 Making it stick 6 Systems for daily life 6 Question the thought 5 Shame 5 Breaking the worry loop 5 What worry does 5 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Get started 4 Letting it out safely 4 What you are actually defending 4 Shame and stigma 4 When everything feels flat 4 Treatment and medication 4 Facing it a step at a time 4 Calm the body 3 Emotions as signals 3 Growing empathy 3 Let the wave come 3 Name what you feel 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Working with anger 3 Your sense of time 2 Screens and attention 2 Safety and grounding 2 Ride the urge 2 Patience and trust 2 Exercise, food and other supports 2 Meaning after harm 2 Knowing your partner 2 Getting assessed and diagnosed 2 When you use something to cope 2 Being seen and judged 2 Answering bids 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Self-compassion 2 Validate yourself and others 1 What ADHD actually is 1 Listen to the body 1 Reading, numbers and learning differences 1 Act on your values 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Affection and touch 1 Remembering to do it 1 Rebuild trust 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Panic and the body 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Care for yourself in loss 1

Approach

Medical and treatment 3 Parts work 1

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 29 In a change 8 Under stress 4 Coming and going 3

If a medicine leaves you wired, restless or with a pulse that will not settle, report it rather than tolerating it quietly.

The antidepressants that act on noradrenaline as well as serotonin can raise blood pressure and put nerves on edge, and with some of them that grows…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:28

Try putting a sentence between you and the mood: this is what my brain is doing right now. It does not make me a bad person, and it does not mean I cannot cope. It just feels that way today.

Low mood does not arrive labelled as a mood. It arrives as facts about you, that you are useless, that nobody wants you around, and it is very hard…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatParts workQur’an 93:3

A medicine that lifts drive is not the same as one that settles anxiety, and for some people the energising kind makes the worry louder.

Bupropion is the clearest example: often good for flatness and lack of motivation, often unhelpful on its own when anxiety and a racing, sleepless…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 8:24

Six to eight weeks is what an antidepressant needs before it can be judged. The first fortnight will mostly tell you about side effects.

The transporter is blocked within hours, so the delay belongs to slower changes further down the line. In practice that means picking a date four to…

LongerWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:110

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