Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

4 practices

What you are actually defending On my own Under stress Clear all

How long you have

A minute 3 Five minutes 1

Who it is written for

Me 4 A practitioner 4 Someone I care about 2

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 3 Struggling right now 1

On your own, or with someone · On my own

On my own 4 Involves someone else 1

Theme · What you are actually defending

The moment before you snap 30 Cool the body first 30 Grounding and settling 27 Choosing your response 26 Touch and bodywork 22 Your nervous system 20 What anger actually is 18 The fear underneath anger 15 Equanimity and perspective 14 Tolerate distress 10 Breathing 10 Feelings and focus 9 Staying regulated in conflict 9 Feeling from the inside 8 Medication and how it works 7 Moving your body 7 Practising under provocation 7 Making it stick 6 Bringing the future closer 6 Systems for daily life 6 Shame 5 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Question the thought 5 What worry does 5 Breaking the worry loop 5 Letting it out safely 4 Facing it a step at a time 4 When everything feels flat 4 What you are actually defending 4 Get started 4 Shame and stigma 4 Treatment and medication 4 Let the wave come 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Growing empathy 3 Calm the body 3 Emotions as signals 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Name what you feel 3 Working with anger 3 Exercise, food and other supports 2 Ride the urge 2 Safety and grounding 2 Screens and attention 2 Self-compassion 2 Your sense of time 2 Meaning after harm 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Knowing your partner 2 Getting assessed and diagnosed 2 When you use something to cope 2 Being seen and judged 2 Answering bids 2 Patience and trust 2 What ADHD actually is 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Act on your values 1 Remembering to do it 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Rebuild trust 1 Listen to the body 1 Affection and touch 1 Reading, numbers and learning differences 1 Panic and the body 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Your window of tolerance 1

Approach

Mindfulness 3 Core 1

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 13 Under stress 4 Coming and going 1 Something good 1 In a change 1 After a row 1

Disrespect is a paper tiger. It comes at you looking like something, and it has never once actually done you any damage.

Worth noticing what your body does anyway. The heart goes, the jaw sets, and you get ready as though something physical were about to happen. The…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 25:63

Anger and doubt cannot really occupy the same moment. Anger sharpens everything to a point, and a genuine maybe blunts it.

This is why an honest question does more than an argument. Not a challenge, which hardens things, but a real one: what if I have got part of this…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingMindfulnessQur’an 2:206

Not understanding what is happening frightens a person before it angers them. If you flare up when a situation is unclear, you are meeting something very old in yourself rather than a fault you invented.

Watch the order of it next time. First the blank, the not knowing what this means or where it is going, then a tightening in the chest or jaw, then…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingMindfulnessQur’an 17:36

The aim is not to work out the answer. It is to keep moving while the answer is missing, and to find that the fear does not have to run the day.

When something is unsettled, your mind hands you one job after another: replay it, check it, decide what they really meant. You can put those down…

Five minutesWhat you are actually defendingMindfulnessQur’an 3:154

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