Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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When anger turns to harm Five minutes On my own Clear all

How long you have · Five minutes

A minute 1 Five minutes 4 Twenty minutes 2

Who it is written for

A practitioner 4 Someone I care about 4 Me 3

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 2 Struggling right now 2

On your own, or with someone · On my own

Both of us together 5 On my own 4

Theme · When anger turns to harm

Your nervous system 65 Medication and how it works 49 What anger actually is 46 Equanimity and perspective 36 The moment before you snap 34 Touch and bodywork 34 Get started 33 Getting assessed and diagnosed 32 Grounding and settling 32 Exercise, food and other supports 31 Choosing your response 30 Your sense of time 30 When everything feels flat 29 The fear underneath anger 28 What ADHD actually is 28 Food, caffeine and fuel 27 Systems for daily life 25 Practising under provocation 22 Treatment and medication 21 Bringing the future closer 19 Shame and stigma 18 Cool the body first 18 Breathing 18 Screens and attention 17 What worry does 16 Feeling from the inside 16 Moving your body 16 What you are actually defending 15 Feelings and focus 14 Structure and routine 11 Making it stick 11 Being seen and judged 11 Treatment and medication 10 Obsessions and compulsions 9 Breaking the worry loop 9 Growing empathy 9 Remembering to do it 9 Righteous anger and perfectionism 8 When you use something to cope 8 Tolerate distress 8 Reading, numbers and learning differences 7 Emotions as signals 7 Self-compassion 7 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 Question the thought 5 Facing it a step at a time 4 When anger turns to harm 4 Staying regulated in conflict 4 Shame 4 When you go numb 3 Living with uncertainty 2 Use your strengths 2 Work with your brain 2 Meaning after harm 2 Find meaning 2 Act on your values 2 Anger, alcohol and the body 2 Repair after rupture 1 Rebuilding trust 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Notice the pattern and flex 1 Letting it out safely 1 Let the wave come 1 Knowing your partner 1 Get it out of your head 1 Calm the body 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Working with anger 1 Face it gently 1 Shared spiritual life 1 Your worth is not conditional 1 Rest and pacing 1

When

Under stress 2 Any ordinary day 1 After a row 1

Harm that comes out of feeling threatened and harm that is done coldly, to get something, are not one problem wearing two faces. Before deciding what would help, work out which one you are looking at.

The first kind runs hot. A person feels cornered, the body goes off, and the damage is done inside a few seconds. The second is quiet and aimed, with…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 42:42

The person you love and the person who frightened you are one person, and you are not obliged to decide which of them is the real one. Both were in the room.

People tend to collapse this in one direction or the other. Either the frightening one is the truth and every kind thing was an act, or the kind one…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:110

Imagining revenge is ordinary and on its own tells you very little. What matters is whether it has started collecting details: a particular person, a method, a time, something bought or moved.

Almost everybody who is furious has run some version of a scene in their head, and treating that as alarming only teaches people not to mention it.…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 11:112

Before anything else, take seriously what self-injury is doing for a person. Pain in the body can be easier to hold than pain in the mind, and a hurt you chose yourself can feel like control coming back.

There are other honest reasons too. It can switch the world off for a while, or hold up a kind of armour: nobody can hurt me worse than I already do,…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 28:77

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