Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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4 practices

Staying regulated in conflict Five minutes On my own Clear all

How long you have · Five minutes

A minute 32 Five minutes 4

Who it is written for

Me 4 My husband or wife 4

On your own, or with someone · On my own

Involves someone else 5 On my own 4

Theme · Staying regulated in conflict

Your nervous system 65 Medication and how it works 49 What anger actually is 46 Equanimity and perspective 36 Touch and bodywork 34 The moment before you snap 34 Get started 33 Grounding and settling 32 Getting assessed and diagnosed 32 Exercise, food and other supports 31 Choosing your response 30 Your sense of time 30 When everything feels flat 29 What ADHD actually is 28 The fear underneath anger 28 Food, caffeine and fuel 27 Systems for daily life 25 Practising under provocation 22 Treatment and medication 21 Bringing the future closer 19 Shame and stigma 18 Breathing 18 Cool the body first 18 Screens and attention 17 Moving your body 16 Feeling from the inside 16 What worry does 16 What you are actually defending 15 Feelings and focus 14 Structure and routine 11 Being seen and judged 11 Making it stick 11 Treatment and medication 10 Growing empathy 9 Breaking the worry loop 9 Remembering to do it 9 Obsessions and compulsions 9 Tolerate distress 8 When you use something to cope 8 Righteous anger and perfectionism 8 Self-compassion 7 Emotions as signals 7 Reading, numbers and learning differences 7 Question the thought 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 When anger turns to harm 4 Staying regulated in conflict 4 Shame 4 Facing it a step at a time 4 When you go numb 3 Meaning after harm 2 Use your strengths 2 Anger, alcohol and the body 2 Living with uncertainty 2 Work with your brain 2 Act on your values 2 Find meaning 2 Notice the pattern and flex 1 Calm the body 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Rest and pacing 1 Shared spiritual life 1 Get it out of your head 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Working with anger 1 Let the wave come 1 Your worth is not conditional 1 Knowing your partner 1 Repair after rupture 1 Face it gently 1 Letting it out safely 1 Rebuilding trust 1

Approach

Gottman 2 Core 1 Emotionally focused 1

When

Under stress 3 Coming and going 1

When it heats up today, slow everything down: your voice, your breath, your pace.

Speed is the fuel of a fight. Halve your tempo and the heat drops with it.

Five minutesStaying regulated in conflictEmotionally focusedQur’an 7:199

When you feel flooded today, name it and take a real break before you say a word.

Racing heart, tight chest, that is the signal. Step away, breathe, come back when steady.

Five minutesStaying regulated in conflictGottmanQur’an 7:199

Take ten quiet minutes to decompress before you walk in the door.

Arriving already softened means the day's stress is not spent on the person you love.

Five minutesStaying regulated in conflictCoreQur’an 3:159

On a break, do not rehearse how wronged you are. Let the grievance go and let your body settle.

Thoughts like I do not have to take this keep you flooded. Turn to something calming instead.

Five minutesStaying regulated in conflictGottmanQur’an 13:28

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