Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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3 practices

When you go numb Five minutes On my own Clear all

How long you have · Five minutes

A minute 1 Five minutes 3

Who it is written for

Me 3 My husband or wife 3 A practitioner 3

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 2 Coping, mostly 1

On your own, or with someone · On my own

On my own 3 Both of us together 2 Involves someone else 1

Theme · When you go numb

Your nervous system 65 Medication and how it works 49 What anger actually is 46 Equanimity and perspective 36 Touch and bodywork 34 The moment before you snap 34 Get started 33 Grounding and settling 32 Getting assessed and diagnosed 32 Exercise, food and other supports 31 Choosing your response 30 Your sense of time 30 When everything feels flat 29 What ADHD actually is 28 The fear underneath anger 28 Food, caffeine and fuel 27 Systems for daily life 25 Practising under provocation 22 Treatment and medication 21 Bringing the future closer 19 Shame and stigma 18 Breathing 18 Cool the body first 18 Screens and attention 17 Moving your body 16 Feeling from the inside 16 What worry does 16 What you are actually defending 15 Feelings and focus 14 Structure and routine 11 Being seen and judged 11 Making it stick 11 Treatment and medication 10 Growing empathy 9 Breaking the worry loop 9 Remembering to do it 9 Obsessions and compulsions 9 Tolerate distress 8 When you use something to cope 8 Righteous anger and perfectionism 8 Self-compassion 7 Emotions as signals 7 Reading, numbers and learning differences 7 Question the thought 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 When anger turns to harm 4 Staying regulated in conflict 4 Shame 4 Facing it a step at a time 4 When you go numb 3 Meaning after harm 2 Use your strengths 2 Anger, alcohol and the body 2 Living with uncertainty 2 Work with your brain 2 Act on your values 2 Find meaning 2 Notice the pattern and flex 1 Calm the body 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Rest and pacing 1 Shared spiritual life 1 Get it out of your head 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Working with anger 1 Let the wave come 1 Your worth is not conditional 1 Knowing your partner 1 Repair after rupture 1 Face it gently 1 Letting it out safely 1 Rebuilding trust 1

When someone says they feel nothing, find out where the nothing reaches. All the time, or only towards good things, or only here, in this conversation, when criticism is in the air?

The three answers point in quite different directions. Numb everywhere, day and night, is worth taking to a doctor. Numb to good things while the bad…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 50:37

If a medicine has taken the edge off everything, including the good things, that is worth raising with whoever prescribed it. Taking the sharpness out of pain is one thing. Feeling nothing at all is not a way to live.

It matters practically as well as personally. Anything you are trying to change, in a relationship or in yourself, needs some feeling to work with,…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 6:122

Going still and needing nothing is usually something a person worked out young, somewhere it was the sensible answer.

If reaching out met dismissal, or worse, then not reaching out is not a flaw of character. A child who stops asking, stops showing what they feel and…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 57:16

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