Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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4 practices
How long you have · A minute
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme · Getting assessed and diagnosed
The moment before you snap 34Choosing your response 34Staying regulated in conflict 32Cool the body first 29Your nervous system 24What anger actually is 24Grounding and settling 21The fear underneath anger 20Get started 19Bringing the future closer 18Medication and how it works 16Your sense of time 14Equanimity and perspective 14Answering bids 13Fondness and admiration 13Treatment and medication 13Structure and routine 12Systems for daily life 12Making it stick 12Feelings and focus 11Practising under provocation 11Touch and bodywork 11Growing empathy 10Food, caffeine and fuel 9Knowing your partner 9Exercise, food and other supports 8What ADHD actually is 8Remembering to do it 7Gratitude 7Tolerate distress 7Repair after rupture 6When everything feels flat 6What worry does 6Moving your body 6Screens and attention 6Being seen and judged 5Shame and stigma 5Shared spiritual life 5What you are actually defending 5Treatment and medication 5Breathing 5Self-compassion 4Feeling from the inside 4Getting assessed and diagnosed 4Question the thought 4When you use something to cope 3Name what you feel 3Facing it a step at a time 3Hold a boundary 2Meaning after harm 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Panic and the body 2Patience and trust 2Posture and how you carry yourself 2Rebuilding trust 2Ride the urge 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Rituals of connection 2Safety and grounding 2Shame 2Affection and touch 2Working with anger 2Your worth is not conditional 2Emotions as signals 2Calm the body 2Let the wave come 2Listening and understanding 1Act on your values 1Listen to the body 1Keep the bond 1Face it gently 1Letting it out safely 1Rest and pacing 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1When anger turns to harm 1Obsessions and compulsions 1Care for yourself in loss 1Reading, numbers and learning differences 1Get it out of your head 1Validate yourself and others 1Your window of tolerance 1When you go numb 1Breaking the worry loop 1
When

If you are being assessed for attention, say something about your mood and your worry as well, even if nobody asks.

Anxiety and low mood sit alongside ADHD often enough that a thorough assessment will go looking for them anyway. But shame is quiet, and years of…

A minuteGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 40:60

Some people simply cannot get a family history. Refugee journeys, destroyed records, closed adoptions, families that did not survive. That is a gap in the paperwork and not evidence against the diagnosis.

Say so out loud, and write it in the notes as a gap rather than as a negative finding, so the next person reading does not mistake silence for an…

A minuteGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 17:70

One man put his lamps on a timer so the room would go dark at eleven and send him to bed. It worked for a few nights. Then he simply carried on in the dark. A cue can tell you the time. It cannot make you stand up.

Worth remembering before you build anything clever. If the pull of whatever a person is already doing is stronger than the nudge you have designed,…

A minuteGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 96:5

'I set a reminder and still did not do it' is not a story about a bad reminder. It tells you the missing piece was never information, and a bigger, louder version of the same thing will fail in the same way.

The reflex is to escalate: three alarms, a different app, an entire new system built on Sunday night. What is needed is a change of kind, something…

A minuteGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 17:36

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