Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

4 practices

Self-compassion A minute On my own Clear all

How long you have · A minute

A minute 4 Five minutes 7 Longer 1

Who it is written for

Me 4 A practitioner 3 Someone I care about 3

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 3 Struggling right now 1

Theme · Self-compassion

Choosing your response 34 The moment before you snap 34 Staying regulated in conflict 32 Cool the body first 29 Your nervous system 24 What anger actually is 24 Grounding and settling 21 The fear underneath anger 20 Get started 19 Bringing the future closer 18 Medication and how it works 16 Your sense of time 14 Equanimity and perspective 14 Answering bids 13 Treatment and medication 13 Fondness and admiration 13 Making it stick 12 Systems for daily life 12 Structure and routine 12 Feelings and focus 11 Practising under provocation 11 Touch and bodywork 11 Growing empathy 10 Food, caffeine and fuel 9 Knowing your partner 9 Exercise, food and other supports 8 What ADHD actually is 8 Gratitude 7 Tolerate distress 7 Remembering to do it 7 What worry does 6 Screens and attention 6 When everything feels flat 6 Moving your body 6 Repair after rupture 6 Shared spiritual life 5 Shame and stigma 5 What you are actually defending 5 Treatment and medication 5 Being seen and judged 5 Breathing 5 Feeling from the inside 4 Self-compassion 4 Getting assessed and diagnosed 4 Question the thought 4 When you use something to cope 3 Name what you feel 3 Facing it a step at a time 3 Rituals of connection 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Ride the urge 2 Shame 2 Rebuilding trust 2 Posture and how you carry yourself 2 Affection and touch 2 Patience and trust 2 Panic and the body 2 Notice the pattern and flex 2 Working with anger 2 Your worth is not conditional 2 Let the wave come 2 Hold a boundary 2 Emotions as signals 2 Meaning after harm 2 Calm the body 2 Safety and grounding 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 1 Breaking the worry loop 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Rest and pacing 1 Keep the bond 1 When anger turns to harm 1 Get it out of your head 1 Face it gently 1 Letting it out safely 1 Act on your values 1 Listening and understanding 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Listen to the body 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1 When you go numb 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Your window of tolerance 1

When

Any ordinary day 3 In a change 1

The aim was never to stop needing the aids. It is to find ways round the parts that do not work well, and then to keep using them.

People tend to treat the alarms, the lists, the whiteboard by the door as scaffolding they ought to take down eventually. That is usually why it all…

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 4:28

Everyone has something about themselves they wish were different, and something they cannot do reliably however much they mean to. Yours has a name and a good deal of research behind it, which is not the same as being uniquely broken.

Say this carefully, because there is a careless version that does real damage. Everyone is a bit ADHD is not what is meant, and it leaves a person…

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 20:115

One man with ADHD described the goal as no longer suffering from it, only having it. The diagnosis had not changed. What it cost him had.

Half of that shift comes from removing particular sources of pain: the job that was never going to work, the arrangement at home that left everything…

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 94:1

When you fall off task, restart without the pile-on. Talk to yourself like a good coach, not a critic.

The lost hour is gone; the next one is not. Skip the self-attack and just begin again.

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 2:286

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