Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

5 practices

What you are actually defending A minute On my own Clear all

How long you have · A minute

A minute 5 Five minutes 15 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for

Me 5 A practitioner 5 Someone I care about 4

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 4 Struggling right now 1

On your own, or with someone · On my own

On my own 5 Involves someone else 1

Theme · What you are actually defending

The moment before you snap 34 Choosing your response 34 Staying regulated in conflict 32 Cool the body first 29 Your nervous system 24 What anger actually is 24 Grounding and settling 21 The fear underneath anger 20 Get started 19 Bringing the future closer 18 Medication and how it works 16 Your sense of time 14 Equanimity and perspective 14 Answering bids 13 Fondness and admiration 13 Treatment and medication 13 Structure and routine 12 Systems for daily life 12 Making it stick 12 Feelings and focus 11 Practising under provocation 11 Touch and bodywork 11 Growing empathy 10 Food, caffeine and fuel 9 Knowing your partner 9 Exercise, food and other supports 8 What ADHD actually is 8 Remembering to do it 7 Gratitude 7 Tolerate distress 7 Repair after rupture 6 When everything feels flat 6 What worry does 6 Moving your body 6 Screens and attention 6 Being seen and judged 5 Shame and stigma 5 Shared spiritual life 5 What you are actually defending 5 Treatment and medication 5 Breathing 5 Self-compassion 4 Feeling from the inside 4 Getting assessed and diagnosed 4 Question the thought 4 When you use something to cope 3 Name what you feel 3 Facing it a step at a time 3 Hold a boundary 2 Meaning after harm 2 Notice the pattern and flex 2 Panic and the body 2 Patience and trust 2 Posture and how you carry yourself 2 Rebuilding trust 2 Ride the urge 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Rituals of connection 2 Safety and grounding 2 Shame 2 Affection and touch 2 Working with anger 2 Your worth is not conditional 2 Emotions as signals 2 Calm the body 2 Let the wave come 2 Listening and understanding 1 Act on your values 1 Listen to the body 1 Keep the bond 1 Face it gently 1 Letting it out safely 1 Rest and pacing 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 When anger turns to harm 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Reading, numbers and learning differences 1 Get it out of your head 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Your window of tolerance 1 When you go numb 1 Breaking the worry loop 1

Approach

Mindfulness 3 Core 2

When

Under stress 3 Any ordinary day 2

Respect comes from the Latin for looking, with the prefix meaning again. It is literally the second look, the head that turns as somebody important walks past.

Knowing that does something useful. A word that felt close to sacred turns into a plain social behaviour you can examine: who gets looked at twice,…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 31:18

Disrespect is a paper tiger. It comes at you looking like something, and it has never once actually done you any damage.

Worth noticing what your body does anyway. The heart goes, the jaw sets, and you get ready as though something physical were about to happen. The…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 25:63

Anger and doubt cannot really occupy the same moment. Anger sharpens everything to a point, and a genuine maybe blunts it.

This is why an honest question does more than an argument. Not a challenge, which hardens things, but a real one: what if I have got part of this…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingMindfulnessQur’an 2:206

Your mind is always slightly behind what is happening. Reality moves and you are the response, which leaves you permanently a step late and permanently not quite sure.

Put that way, uncertainty is not a flaw in your thinking, it is the position you are standing in. You are flying into the next moment without having…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingMindfulnessQur’an 16:23

Not understanding what is happening frightens a person before it angers them. If you flare up when a situation is unclear, you are meeting something very old in yourself rather than a fault you invented.

Watch the order of it next time. First the blank, the not knowing what this means or where it is going, then a tightening in the chest or jaw, then…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingMindfulnessQur’an 17:36

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