Practices

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Theme · Exercise, food and other supports
Your nervous system 108What anger actually is 83Medication and how it works 83The moment before you snap 76Choosing your response 73Get started 65Systems for daily life 62Grounding and settling 60The fear underneath anger 57Equanimity and perspective 57Cool the body first 55Your sense of time 52Touch and bodywork 52What ADHD actually is 49Food, caffeine and fuel 49Moving your body 48Bringing the future closer 46Exercise, food and other supports 44When everything feels flat 44Treatment and medication 43Getting assessed and diagnosed 42Feelings and focus 38Staying regulated in conflict 36Practising under provocation 36Screens and attention 31Shame and stigma 30Making it stick 29Breathing 28Structure and routine 25What worry does 24Treatment and medication 24Feeling from the inside 23Tolerate distress 23Being seen and judged 22What you are actually defending 21Growing empathy 20Remembering to do it 20When you use something to cope 19Reading, numbers and learning differences 14Breaking the worry loop 13Fondness and admiration 13Righteous anger and perfectionism 13Answering bids 13Obsessions and compulsions 13Self-compassion 12Emotions as signals 12Facing it a step at a time 11Question the thought 11Shame 10Knowing your partner 10Use your strengths 9Posture and how you carry yourself 8Repair after rupture 8Anger, alcohol and the body 8Gratitude 7When anger turns to harm 7Shared spiritual life 7Meaning after harm 4Living with uncertainty 4When you go numb 4Letting it out safely 4Notice the pattern and flex 3Act on your values 3Safety and grounding 3Rest and pacing 3Rebuilding trust 3Working with anger 3Your worth is not conditional 3Name what you feel 3Let the wave come 3Calm the body 3Ride the urge 2Your window of tolerance 2Panic and the body 2Listen to the body 2Rituals of connection 2Keep the bond 2Hold a boundary 2Patience and trust 2Get it out of your head 2Find meaning 2Face it gently 2Care for yourself in loss 2Affection and touch 2Work with your brain 2The cost of avoiding 2Listening and understanding 1Validate yourself and others 1
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There is no brain scan, EEG trace or blood test that can tell you whether someone has ADHD. Anything sold as an objective biological test for it is promising more than the science can give.

Group differences do exist, including in the theta to beta balance, but a difference that appears when you average hundreds of people cannot identify…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:247

Balance difficulties do turn up more often in ADHD, by something like half again. That is a fact about company, not about cause, and it does not turn balance training into a treatment.

Plenty of things could sit behind a link like that. More falls and knocks, more risk taken, or genetics feeding both at once. Working on balance…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:12

Protocols that spin a child in a chair or tip them backwards and forwards to train balance do not improve ADHD. What they mainly produce is a dizzy child.

There is a cost beyond the wasted afternoons. Something unpleasant that was introduced as treatment teaches a child what treatment feels like, and…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 31:19

The amount in a capsule can vary from bottle to bottle, and sometimes between capsules in the same bottle. Undeclared fillers have been found in them too.

This matters most when you are trying to work out whether something helps you. A good month followed by a flat one may be two different products…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:12

Kava can damage the liver at a high enough dose, badly enough that some countries have banned it. Herbal is not a synonym for gentle.

The unnerving part is how quiet liver damage is. Someone self medicating anxiety with kava can be accumulating harm and feel nothing at all until it…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 20:81

Vitamin C cannot really be stockpiled, since the excess leaves in your urine. A, D, E and K are stored in fat, so a large daily dose keeps adding to itself.

Vitamin D is where this bites at the moment, after a lot of people started taking big amounts on their own during the pandemic years. If you are…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 7:31

Omega supplements thin the blood, so they usually do not belong alongside warfarin. Bruising easily is often the first thing anyone notices.

One clinician worked out that her husband's bruising came from taking omegas on top of his Coumadin, and it settled once his doctor told him to stop.…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 73:20

If fish oil gives you those horrible repeats all afternoon, that is a fixable problem rather than a reason to stop. Keep the capsules in the freezer, ask about an enteric coated version, or try a flavoured liquid.

Sticking with something usually fails for small unglamorous reasons like this. Someone with a sensitive palate will not last four weeks with an…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

Neurofeedback rests on a tidy idea: in ADHD the slower theta rhythm shows up when the faster beta rhythm should be running, so the training rewards you for shifting the balance. Knowing the idea is worth a few minutes, because it is what the brochure is built on.

Electrodes sit on the scalp, a screen animates when the signal moves the wanted way, and the person practises staying in a state of relaxed…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 3:191

Ask what happens after the course ends, not only what happens during it. A gain that fades once the sessions stop was probably never a change in the person.

Neurofeedback tends to look decent while it is being delivered and then drift back, and the studies that followed people afterwards did not find…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:11

Before committing to a course that runs into thousands, set the same money next to the other things it could buy. Tutoring, a proper assessment, a medication review and a well tested psychosocial programme all sit in the same envelope.

Neurofeedback courses often run for a month or more, insurers rarely pay, and the training of whoever delivers it varies a great deal. The cost is…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 6:141

When you read that a treatment worked, look for who judged the improvement and whether they knew what the child had been given. In much of this literature, they knew.

The design to look for is a sham condition, where everybody goes through the same routine and only some receive the active ingredient, with the…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 55:8

Brain training games make you better at the game. Sadly, that improvement tends to stay inside the game.

Sorting shapes faster or planning a conveyor belt more smoothly comes from learning the task, not from stretching a capacity, so the classroom and…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 53:39

Regulators let devices through by several different routes, and only some of them mean what a family assumes. A game cleared for further investigation has not passed the bar a medicine passes.

The word approval carries an authority that advertising borrows freely, and device pathways are shorter and lighter than the ones drugs travel. It is…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:27

The fair test for anything offered alongside medication is whether it adds something on top. In one small imaging study, cognitive training added to a stimulant left inhibition no better than the stimulant on its own.

Add on designs are unkind to hopeful ideas, which is exactly why they are worth running. About twenty children took part, so this is one small piece…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 22:78

Programmes built on tones through headphones and balance drills have not been shown to help ADHD. If a child does seem steadier during them, the likeliest reason is that something is occupying the part of them that goes looking for stimulation.

That effect is real enough, and it is cheap to get elsewhere. A walk, a job with the hands, background sound they choose themselves, all of it…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:153

If someone has genuine positional vertigo, get it treated, and do not expect the treatment to touch their ADHD. Both things can be true at the same time.

Benign paroxysmal positional vertigo often follows a sinus infection or a bang to the head, and it responds well to repositioning manoeuvres that…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

Several professional bodies came together to say that vision therapy is not a treatment for ADHD. A joint statement like that is unusual, and it is worth quoting to a family word for word.

Convergence problems, where the eyes struggle to work together on something close up, are a little more common in ADHD and deserve treating in their…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 10:67

Sensory processing difficulties are real and worth accommodating, and they are not a standalone diagnosis. The proposal for one was turned down for lack of evidence that it stands apart from the conditions it appears with.

In practice it usually shows up alongside ADHD or autism, so it is best written up as a feature of the person: what they cannot tolerate, what they…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:185

Turn the socks inside out so the seam sits away from the toes, cut the label out and print the size onto the fabric instead, and look at seamless clothing. These cost pennies against a course of therapy and they work by teatime.

A scratchy seam or a stiff tag is a small thing that keeps announcing itself all day, and every announcement takes a piece of attention with it.…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 7:31

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