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Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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22 practices

Being seen and judged On my own Clear all

How long you have

A minute 5 Five minutes 11 Twenty minutes 3 Longer 3

Who it is written for

Me 22 A practitioner 21 Someone I care about 3

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 12 Struggling right now 8 Getting ready for something 2

On your own, or with someone · On my own

On my own 22 Both of us together 5 Involves someone else 3

Theme · Being seen and judged

Your nervous system 108Medication and how it works 83 What anger actually is 83 The moment before you snap 76 Choosing your response 73 Get started 65 Systems for daily life 62 Grounding and settling 60 Equanimity and perspective 57 The fear underneath anger 57 Cool the body first 55 Touch and bodywork 52 Your sense of time 52 Food, caffeine and fuel 49 What ADHD actually is 49 Moving your body 48 Bringing the future closer 46 Exercise, food and other supports 44 When everything feels flat 44 Treatment and medication 43 Getting assessed and diagnosed 42 Feelings and focus 38 Staying regulated in conflict 36 Practising under provocation 36 Screens and attention 31 Shame and stigma 30 Making it stick 29 Breathing 28 Structure and routine 25 What worry does 24 Treatment and medication 24 Feeling from the inside 23 Tolerate distress 23 Being seen and judged 22 What you are actually defending 21 Remembering to do it 20 Growing empathy 20 When you use something to cope 19 Reading, numbers and learning differences 14 Obsessions and compulsions 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Fondness and admiration 13 Breaking the worry loop 13 Answering bids 13 Emotions as signals 12 Self-compassion 12 Question the thought 11 Facing it a step at a time 11 Knowing your partner 10 Shame 10 Use your strengths 9 Posture and how you carry yourself 8 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 Repair after rupture 8 Gratitude 7 When anger turns to harm 7 Shared spiritual life 7 When you go numb 4 Letting it out safely 4 Meaning after harm 4 Living with uncertainty 4 Calm the body 3 Name what you feel 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Rest and pacing 3 Safety and grounding 3 Act on your values 3 Let the wave come 3 Working with anger 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Get it out of your head 2 Hold a boundary 2 Work with your brain 2 Face it gently 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Keep the bond 2 Panic and the body 2 Find meaning 2 Listen to the body 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Affection and touch 2 Rituals of connection 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Ride the urge 2 Patience and trust 2 Validate yourself and others 1 Listening and understanding 1

Approach

CBT 13 Narrative 9

When

Any ordinary day 18 Under stress 2 In a change 1 Coming and going 1

When a step does not happen, cut the next one down without any speech about it. Smaller, and carry on.

Progress here is often slower than anyone would like, and that is the method working rather than the method failing. What does real damage is a run…

LongerBeing seen and judgedCBTQur’an 20:130

You will probably not feel yourself getting better. One day you will be halfway through a chat with a stranger and realise you are doing the thing you could not do.

This is worth knowing at the start, because the middle is where people decide nothing is happening and stop. The change comes in pieces too small to…

LongerBeing seen and judgedNarrativeQur’an 50:39

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