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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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When you use something to cope remove filterCoping, mostly remove filterOn my own remove filterClear all
How long you have
A minute 3Five minutes 2Twenty minutes 1Longer 1
Who it is written for
A practitioner 7Someone I care about 7Me 6
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
Struggling right now 8Coping, mostly 7Getting ready for something 4
On your own, or with someone · On my own
On my own 7Involves someone else 4
Theme · When you use something to cope
Medication and how it works 52Your nervous system 52What anger actually is 45Choosing your response 41Get started 41The moment before you snap 39Systems for daily life 39The fear underneath anger 38Staying regulated in conflict 36Equanimity and perspective 36Your sense of time 31Bringing the future closer 30Moving your body 30Touch and bodywork 30Treatment and medication 27Exercise, food and other supports 26When everything feels flat 26Getting assessed and diagnosed 26Feelings and focus 25Grounding and settling 22What ADHD actually is 21Practising under provocation 19Food, caffeine and fuel 19Structure and routine 18Making it stick 18Cool the body first 18Screens and attention 17What worry does 17What you are actually defending 17Treatment and medication 16Growing empathy 15Breathing 15Answering bids 13Fondness and admiration 13Righteous anger and perfectionism 12Being seen and judged 12Feeling from the inside 12Shame and stigma 12Remembering to do it 11Knowing your partner 10Emotions as signals 8Tolerate distress 8Self-compassion 8Repair after rupture 8Gratitude 7When you use something to cope 7Shared spiritual life 7Breaking the worry loop 7Use your strengths 7Anger, alcohol and the body 6Facing it a step at a time 6When anger turns to harm 5Question the thought 5Meaning after harm 4Name what you feel 3Let the wave come 3Your worth is not conditional 3Posture and how you carry yourself 3Working with anger 3Act on your values 3Calm the body 3Rebuilding trust 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Safety and grounding 3Affection and touch 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Listen to the body 2Keep the bond 2Hold a boundary 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Patience and trust 2Rest and pacing 2Ride the urge 2Rituals of connection 2Get it out of your head 2Find meaning 2Your window of tolerance 2Work with your brain 2Face it gently 2Care for yourself in loss 2Validate yourself and others 1The cost of avoiding 1Living with uncertainty 1Panic and the body 1When you go numb 1Listening and understanding 1
When
Any ordinary day 6Under stress 1

Not feeling sleepy is not the same as not being affected. Younger drinkers often stay awake through a great deal more than their body is actually handling.

The tiredness that ends an older person's night arrives much later, so the evening runs on and the amount climbs with it. Which is why a limit has to…

A minuteWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 7:31

A tablet is not safer because of where it started out. Taken by someone it was never prescribed for, it is simply an unprescribed drug.

Borrowed stimulants get treated as harmless because a doctor's name is on the box somewhere. The dose was worked out for another person's body and…

A minuteWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 2:168

When someone tells you how much they use, take it as a floor rather than a total. Then keep that adjustment to yourself.

Under-reporting is rarely a lie. There is legal risk, there is shame, and there is genuinely losing count. So plan around a larger figure than the…

A minuteWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 12:53

Most people can tell you exactly why the thing is a bad idea. The trouble arrives later, when feeling is running high and all that reasoning is nowhere to be found.

So treat it as a doing problem rather than a knowing problem. Decisions made calmly and in advance travel into hard moments much better than…

Five minutesWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 12:33

The fog after cannabis is not gone by morning. In younger users learning can stay dulled for several days, so Saturday night is still in the room on Wednesday.

That changes what to look at. Rather than arguing about the night itself, keep a rough note of the days that follow: what got read, what stayed in,…

Five minutesWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 59:19

When someone keeps doing the risky thing after every explanation, the missing piece is usually not information. The pull is simply louder than the knowledge.

Which means another lecture is mostly wasted breath, while changing what is within reach is not. Fewer bottles in the house, a route home that avoids…

Twenty minutesWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 45:23

The useful part is not the chart on the wall. It is that the person could think of things to do instead, and that took months of quiet work to arrive at.

Someone else's list of alternatives will not hold, because they thought of theirs and you did not. Build yours slowly, adding what has genuinely…

LongerWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 29:69

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