Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

2 practices

Obsessions and compulsions Coping, mostly On my own Clear all

How long you have

Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 2 Someone I care about 1 Me 1

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Struggling right now 11 Coping, mostly 2

On your own, or with someone · On my own

Both of us together 2 Involves someone else 2 On my own 2

Theme · Obsessions and compulsions

Medication and how it works 52 Your nervous system 52 What anger actually is 45 Choosing your response 41 Get started 41 The moment before you snap 39 Systems for daily life 39 The fear underneath anger 38 Staying regulated in conflict 36 Equanimity and perspective 36 Your sense of time 31 Bringing the future closer 30 Moving your body 30 Touch and bodywork 30 Treatment and medication 27 Getting assessed and diagnosed 26 When everything feels flat 26 Exercise, food and other supports 26 Feelings and focus 25 Grounding and settling 22 What ADHD actually is 21 Food, caffeine and fuel 19 Practising under provocation 19 Cool the body first 18 Making it stick 18 Structure and routine 18 Screens and attention 17 What you are actually defending 17 What worry does 17 Treatment and medication 16 Growing empathy 15 Breathing 15 Fondness and admiration 13 Answering bids 13 Being seen and judged 12 Feeling from the inside 12 Shame and stigma 12 Righteous anger and perfectionism 12 Remembering to do it 11 Knowing your partner 10 Self-compassion 8 Tolerate distress 8 Emotions as signals 8 Repair after rupture 8 Shared spiritual life 7 Use your strengths 7 When you use something to cope 7 Breaking the worry loop 7 Gratitude 7 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Facing it a step at a time 6 When anger turns to harm 5 Question the thought 5 Meaning after harm 4 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Act on your values 3 Safety and grounding 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Working with anger 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 Let the wave come 3 Calm the body 3 Name what you feel 3 Affection and touch 2 Keep the bond 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Listen to the body 2 Get it out of your head 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Patience and trust 2 Rest and pacing 2 Ride the urge 2 Rituals of connection 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Work with your brain 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Hold a boundary 2 Living with uncertainty 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Panic and the body 1 When you go numb 1 Listening and understanding 1 Validate yourself and others 1

It can help to give the parts of your brain jobs. The front of your head is the manager, the memory system is the librarian, and the alarm is a security guard who is good at his work and far too keen on it.

The point is not accuracy, it is having language you can reach for quickly. Saying the guard is overreacting again gets you further than trying to…

Five minutesObsessions and compulsionsCBTQur’an 70:19

When obsessions start early and dig in deep, ask gently what anxiety looks like elsewhere in the family. Often there is an undiagnosed parent, and often that parent is helping in ways that keep the whole thing running.

None of this is about blame. A parent who checks the locks for their child, answers the same question fifteen times, or arranges the evening around a…

Twenty minutesObsessions and compulsionsCBTQur’an 114:6

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