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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Self-compassion remove filterCoping, mostly remove filterOn my own remove filterClear all
How long you have
A minute 3Five minutes 5
Who it is written for
Me 8A practitioner 7Someone I care about 7
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
Coping, mostly 8Struggling right now 3Getting ready for something 1
Theme · Self-compassion
Medication and how it works 52Your nervous system 52What anger actually is 45Choosing your response 41Get started 41The moment before you snap 39Systems for daily life 39The fear underneath anger 38Staying regulated in conflict 36Equanimity and perspective 36Your sense of time 31Bringing the future closer 30Moving your body 30Touch and bodywork 30Treatment and medication 27Getting assessed and diagnosed 26When everything feels flat 26Exercise, food and other supports 26Feelings and focus 25Grounding and settling 22What ADHD actually is 21Food, caffeine and fuel 19Practising under provocation 19Cool the body first 18Making it stick 18Structure and routine 18Screens and attention 17What you are actually defending 17What worry does 17Treatment and medication 16Growing empathy 15Breathing 15Fondness and admiration 13Answering bids 13Being seen and judged 12Feeling from the inside 12Shame and stigma 12Righteous anger and perfectionism 12Remembering to do it 11Knowing your partner 10Self-compassion 8Tolerate distress 8Emotions as signals 8Repair after rupture 8Shared spiritual life 7Use your strengths 7When you use something to cope 7Breaking the worry loop 7Gratitude 7Anger, alcohol and the body 6Facing it a step at a time 6When anger turns to harm 5Question the thought 5Meaning after harm 4Notice the pattern and flex 3Act on your values 3Safety and grounding 3Your worth is not conditional 3Working with anger 3Rebuilding trust 3Posture and how you carry yourself 3Let the wave come 3Calm the body 3Name what you feel 3Affection and touch 2Keep the bond 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Listen to the body 2Get it out of your head 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Patience and trust 2Rest and pacing 2Ride the urge 2Rituals of connection 2Find meaning 2Face it gently 2Your window of tolerance 2Work with your brain 2Care for yourself in loss 2Hold a boundary 2Living with uncertainty 1The cost of avoiding 1Panic and the body 1When you go numb 1Listening and understanding 1Validate yourself and others 1
When
Any ordinary day 6In a change 2

The aim was never to stop needing the aids. It is to find ways round the parts that do not work well, and then to keep using them.

People tend to treat the alarms, the lists, the whiteboard by the door as scaffolding they ought to take down eventually. That is usually why it all…

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 4:28

One man with ADHD described the goal as no longer suffering from it, only having it. The diagnosis had not changed. What it cost him had.

Half of that shift comes from removing particular sources of pain: the job that was never going to work, the arrangement at home that left everything…

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 94:1

When you fall off task, restart without the pile-on. Talk to yourself like a good coach, not a critic.

The lost hour is gone; the next one is not. Skip the self-attack and just begin again.

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 2:286

Most children with ADHD grow into adults with ADHD. Some of it settles as the brain finishes developing into your late twenties, and adult life gives you more say over how your days are arranged, but the underlying difficulty tends to stay.

This is worth knowing because much of the improvement people do get comes from arranging things to suit themselves: the job that fits, the hours that…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 65:7

It rarely stays a matter of attention. The difficulties shape what you come to believe about yourself, that colours how you are with the people closest to you, and their responses feed straight back into the original trouble.

Discouraging to read, and genuinely useful, because it means there are three places to work and they are not equally stuck. The wiring is the hardest…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 2:186

There is a difference between having ADHD and being ADHD. It sounds like word games until you notice which one you are living in.

Being it means the condition runs everything and explains everything, and there is a quiet relief in that which is hard to give up. Having it means…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 53:32

Work properly at the parts that can be managed, then be at peace with what is left over. The order matters more than it sounds.

Peace offered before any real effort is giving up with better vocabulary, and it never quite convinces the person saying it. Effort with no end point…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 22:78

Every list, timer and rule exists to buy you a life worth having. If the systems have quietly become the point, something has turned the wrong way round.

It is easy to end up managing your ADHD as a full time occupation and calling that recovery. A better test of a week is whether it held anything you…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 7:156

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