Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

4 practices

Emotions as signals Struggling right now On my own Clear all

How long you have

Five minutes 3 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for

Me 4 My husband or wife 4 A practitioner 4

Where you are right now · Struggling right now

Coping, mostly 8 Struggling right now 4

On your own, or with someone · On my own

On my own 4 Both of us together 4 Involves someone else 2

Theme · Emotions as signals

Your nervous system 44 What anger actually is 31 Grounding and settling 30 Cool the body first 26 The moment before you snap 24 Get started 23 Touch and bodywork 19 Choosing your response 17 When everything feels flat 17 Shame and stigma 16 Equanimity and perspective 16 What ADHD actually is 15 Screens and attention 14 Your sense of time 14 Food, caffeine and fuel 14 The fear underneath anger 14 Systems for daily life 13 Tolerate distress 13 Obsessions and compulsions 11 Moving your body 11 Medication and how it works 11 Breathing 10 Shame 10 Treatment and medication 10 Feeling from the inside 9 Feelings and focus 9 Getting assessed and diagnosed 9 Being seen and judged 8 When you use something to cope 8 Practising under provocation 7 Treatment and medication 7 What worry does 7 Making it stick 6 Question the thought 6 Bringing the future closer 6 Exercise, food and other supports 5 Structure and routine 5 Breaking the worry loop 5 Emotions as signals 4 Remembering to do it 4 Letting it out safely 4 Growing empathy 4 When you go numb 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 Self-compassion 3 Living with uncertainty 3 What you are actually defending 3 Facing it a step at a time 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Panic and the body 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Use your strengths 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1 Rest and pacing 1

When

Any ordinary day 2 Under stress 2

Ask what the feeling is trying to do for you. Anger clears an obstacle, fear gets you out, sadness calls for comfort, shame hides you from being seen.

Once a feeling has a job it stops being a defect you have to apologise for. That matters, because the ones we treat as shameful are precisely the…

Five minutesEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 12:86

Often nothing is buried. The pieces are all there, they have simply never been put next to each other.

This hurts but I do not know why usually means the event, the feeling in the body and the meaning are being held separately. So join them up out…

Five minutesEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 28:10

If the size of the feeling does not match the size of what just happened, it is probably carrying something older into the room.

Feeling has no real sense of when. An old injury arrives in the present body with all its original force, which is why a small remark can flatten…

Five minutesEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 12:84

Going deeper into a feeling only helps if it is being put in order at the same time. Depth without order is just flooding.

So as the feeling rises, keep laying it out: this is what happened, this is what my body did, this is what I was afraid it meant. If your chest is…

Twenty minutesEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 3:154

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