Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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3 practicesHow long you have
Who it is written for · My husband or wife
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Practising under provocation
Going silent and hard is not a neutral act. A fixed stare and a set brow land on the other person's body as threat, even though you have not said a word.
People often think they are being restrained when they go cold, and are then surprised by how frightened or defensive the other person becomes. If…
Before you practise something exposing with someone, say out loud what is not at risk. I will not think less of you, and nothing between us changes here.
It sounds obvious and it does a great deal of work. If the relationship really is on the line, then the discomfort is not symbolic and no amount of…
If you have someone safe to do it with, ask them to say the thing you dread being thought about you, on purpose, while you practise staying level.
Home is usually where the anger actually happens, so practice that stays in a therapy room or in your head only goes so far. Agree the words…
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