Practices

This is not a milestone you pass. The two year old's version goes, then a version comes back at twenty two, and again at fifty two, wearing whatever clothes that stage of life provides.

So think maintenance rather than course completion. When conditions change, a new baby, a new manager, an illness in the family, expect the old…

Some people get all the way to university before anything is named, then meet eighty pages of reading a night and cannot do it. Nothing broke that night. The volume simply outgrew a way of coping that had held for years.

The history reads the same way every time afterwards: always needed longer, avoided reading aloud, dreaded timed tests, stomach trouble in exam…

If you swallow it all day at work and it comes out at home, home is not where the problem is. It is just the safest place to put it down.

Anger lands where retaliation costs least, which usually means on the people who will forgive you. Two things help more than trying to be calmer at…

The years you spent angry are not written off. The drive that wrecked things is the same drive available now for putting things right.

This is not a way of saying the damage was worth it. It is about what is still in your hands. People who have hurt others through their temper often…