Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

2 practices

What you are actually defending Core Under stress Clear all

Who it is written for

Me 2 Someone I care about 2 My husband or wife 1 A practitioner 1

On your own, or with someone

On my own 1 Involves someone else 1

Theme · What you are actually defending

What anger actually is 20 The moment before you snap 19 The fear underneath anger 18 Choosing your response 14 Equanimity and perspective 7 When anger turns to harm 6 Screens and attention 5 Making it stick 4 Staying regulated in conflict 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Working with anger 2 Answering bids 2 Cool the body first 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Question the thought 2 What you are actually defending 2 Affection and touch 1 Getting assessed and diagnosed 1

Approach · Core

Mindfulness 3 Core 2

When · Under stress

Any ordinary day 9 Under stress 2 After a row 2 Coming and going 1 Something good 1

Disrespect is a paper tiger. It comes at you looking like something, and it has never once actually done you any damage.

Worth noticing what your body does anyway. The heart goes, the jaw sets, and you get ready as though something physical were about to happen. The…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 25:63

When your thinking comes back online mid-argument, say so and offer a restart. I could feel myself getting defensive and this is not helping either of us, shall we try that again?

Most people escalate sometimes. The skill worth having is not never starting but knowing how to get out once you have. Naming it yourself gives the…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 12:92

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.