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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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166 practices
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Area
Anger 115Your marriage 43Focus, starting, and ADHD 5Low mood and hard feelings 3
How long you have · A minute
A minute 166Five minutes 219Twenty minutes 58Longer 31
Who it is written for
Me 157A practitioner 109Someone I care about 74My husband or wife 48
Where you are right now
Coping, mostly 130Struggling right now 30Getting ready for something 6
On your own, or with someone
On my own 143Involves someone else 20Both of us together 3
Theme
What anger actually is 26Choosing your response 25The fear underneath anger 22The moment before you snap 22Staying regulated in conflict 11Answering bids 7Making it stick 6Equanimity and perspective 5Gratitude 5Fondness and admiration 5Affection and touch 4Repair after rupture 4Knowing your partner 3What you are actually defending 3Rituals of connection 3When anger turns to harm 2Screens and attention 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Question the thought 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Cool the body first 2Shared spiritual life 1Treatment and medication 1Working with anger 1
Approach · Core
Core 166ADHD skills 151Body based 124Medical and treatment 87Gottman 65Mindfulness 64Emotionally focused 57CBT 54DBT skills 18Trauma informed 13Grief 8Parts work 2Narrative 2
When
Under stress 78Any ordinary day 64After a row 19Coming and going 3Something good 2

Part of what makes anger attractive is how simple it makes everything. Working out who was right and what to do next is slow and uncertain, and anger hands you an answer straight away.

Escalating is genuinely easier than resolving, which is why it wins so often when you are tired. Seen that way it is not a flaw in your character but…

A minuteWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 17:11

Not every bit of anger is a problem to be solved. Two people squaring up over something that matters, or a mother going hard at whatever threatens her child, is anger doing exactly what it is for.

Having somewhere to put ordinary anger stops you treating all of it as damage. If it fits what happened, says something true, and ends when the…

A minuteWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 3:134

Respect comes from the Latin for looking, with the prefix meaning again. It is literally the second look, the head that turns as somebody important walks past.

Knowing that does something useful. A word that felt close to sacred turns into a plain social behaviour you can examine: who gets looked at twice,…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 31:18

Disrespect is a paper tiger. It comes at you looking like something, and it has never once actually done you any damage.

Worth noticing what your body does anyway. The heart goes, the jaw sets, and you get ready as though something physical were about to happen. The…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 25:63

When your thinking comes back online mid-argument, say so and offer a restart. I could feel myself getting defensive and this is not helping either of us, shall we try that again?

Most people escalate sometimes. The skill worth having is not never starting but knowing how to get out once you have. Naming it yourself gives the…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 12:92

Catch the first body sign of anger, the jaw, the chest, the heat, and name it there.

Caught early, anger can be chosen. Caught late, it chooses for you.

A minuteWorking with angerCoreQur’an 42:37

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