Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
3 practicesHow long you have
Who it is written for
Where you are right now · Getting ready for something
Theme · Equanimity and perspective
Approach · Core
Change the question you ask yourself. Not how badly do I want to stay calm, but what have I actually practised for the moment it starts.
Wanting is not a plan. Decide in advance the words you will use, the room you will step into, the person you will ring afterwards. Rehearsed things…
Behind calm that looks superhuman there are usually decades of dull practice. The practice is the part worth copying, not the headline.
Setting your worst moment against somebody else's lifetime of training only produces despair. Ask instead what that person did on an ordinary…
This kind of change is slow, and saying so at the start is a kindness. A goal you can actually reach beats a promise that turns the first bad week into proof of failure.
If you are helping someone, name the timescale honestly and say out loud that lapses come with it. If it is your own work, write down what a…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.