Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
3 practicesHow long you have · Five minutes
Who it is written for
Theme · Knowing your partner
Approach · Emotionally focused
See your bond as a safe haven and a secure base, not just romance. Your partner is meant to be the person you run to and the place you launch from.
In the science of love, a partner is an attachment figure: a safe harbour in distress and a secure base you venture out from. Treating the…
Under the reactive feeling you show, anger or coldness, there is a softer primary one: fear, hurt, or loneliness. Reach for that and share it.
The heat we show a partner, criticism or withdrawal, is usually a secondary emotion covering a tender primary one underneath. Naming the softer…
If you are the one who goes quiet and pulls away, name the fear behind it and step back in: I shut you out because I was afraid of failing you.
Withdrawing looks like coldness but is usually self-protection from a fear of not being enough. Coming out from behind the wall, naming the fear, and…
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