Practices

Own your share of the fight, even a small part. Say what set you up and what you regret.

I was stressed, I was short, I did not listen. Taking responsibility is the fastest road to repair.

Name what set you off, then tell the older story behind why it is a trigger for you.

Rewind to an earlier time you felt the same. Sharing that story helps your partner know you.

Revisit a past fight only once you are both calm, from the balcony, without climbing back into it.

Processing means talking about the incident, not re-fighting it. Wait until the heat is gone.