Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
3 practicesHow long you have
Who it is written for · My husband or wife
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
On your own, or with someone
Approach · Mindfulness
Try putting a qualifier on the front of your strongest claims. In some ways this is true. In some ways it is not. In some ways I cannot tell from here.
Jain thinkers built a whole grammar out of that, seven careful ways of stating a thing, precisely so assertion stayed honest. Used well, a qualifier…
You do not actually know what they are about to say, or why they did it. Swapping the finished sentence in your head for help me understand costs nothing and changes the whole exchange.
Finishing people's sentences, deciding in advance what they meant, hearing the insult before it has been made: all of it feels like insight and most…
You can be completely right and still lose the room. Usually the trouble is not the point you are making, it is the edge you are making it with.
Softening how you say something is not conceding it. It is the difference between being heard and being braced against. Listen for the tells in your…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.