Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
3 practicesHow long you have
Who it is written for · A practitioner
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
On your own, or with someone
Approach · Parts work
When someone tells you they have been hurting themselves, keep your face steady and stay curious. Alarm closes the conversation, and you need it open.
A visible flinch teaches the person that this is not something you can hear, and the next disclosure goes elsewhere or nowhere. It can also make the…
For some young people self-harm carries something besides relief: belonging, recognition, a name for who they are among friends who do the same.
That is uncomfortable to sit with and it changes what helps. If a behaviour is the reason someone feels understood, taking it away without touching…
Ask what the behaviour does for them, and then ask how they would like to feel instead. Both questions open more than telling them to stop ever does.
The first question maps what is being managed: numbness, rage, panic, a need to make something visible. The second gives you a goal in their words…
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