Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

2 practices

Tolerate distress A minute Body based Clear all

How long you have · A minute

A minute 2 Five minutes 7 Twenty minutes 4

Who it is written for

A practitioner 2 Someone I care about 2 Me 1

On your own, or with someone

Involves someone else 1 On my own 1

Theme · Tolerate distress

Cool the body first 29 Grounding and settling 26 Your nervous system 25 Touch and bodywork 13 Growing empathy 11 Breathing 9 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 Feeling from the inside 3 Tolerate distress 2 Moving your body 1

Approach · Body based

DBT skills 5 Body based 2 Mindfulness 1

Before telling someone what you have noticed about them, ask whether they want it. Do you mind if I offer something back to you? Then describe only what you saw, plainly.

Close attention is not neutral for a person who grew up being watched for a reason. Asking first turns being observed into something they agreed to,…

A minuteTolerate distressBody basedQur’an 52:48

Say it plainly: my anger is allowed here. It is a healthy feeling and it is usually the thing telling me where a line should go.

For anyone who learned that their anger made them dangerous or unlovable, it now arrives with shame attached, and the shame is what turns it into…

A minuteTolerate distressBody basedQur’an 2:214

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