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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Growing empathy remove filterMy husband or wife remove filterAny ordinary day remove filterClear all
How long you have
A minute 1Five minutes 1Longer 1
Who it is written for · My husband or wife
A practitioner 28Me 28Someone I care about 12My husband or wife 3
On your own, or with someone
Both of us together 2Involves someone else 1
Theme · Growing empathy
Knowing your partner 20Shared spiritual life 16Fondness and admiration 14Emotions as signals 13Answering bids 12Staying regulated in conflict 11Listening and understanding 10Feelings and focus 9Gratitude 9Affection and touch 7Rituals of connection 7Treatment and medication 7Rebuilding trust 5Systems for daily life 4Bringing the future closer 4Remembering to do it 4What anger actually is 3Repair after rupture 3When you go numb 3Growing empathy 3The moment before you snap 3Practising under provocation 2What ADHD actually is 2Get started 2Equanimity and perspective 1Your nervous system 1Choosing your response 1Shame 1
Approach
Body based 2Medical and treatment 1
When · Any ordinary day
Any ordinary day 3After a row 2

When someone is telling you something hard, quietly let your body come closer to theirs. Similar posture, similar pace, your voice at their volume rather than your own.

Do it lightly. This is not an impression, and if it looks like one it will land as mockery. A small shift is plenty: leaning in when they lean in,…

A minuteGrowing empathyBody basedQur’an 2:263

Telling somebody one thing you are quietly embarrassed about will bring you closer than a month of pleasant conversation.

It does not have to be dramatic. The worry you have never said out loud, the mistake you still think about at night, the thing you are no good at.…

Five minutesGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 28:23

Two people who spend time in step really do become more attuned. Nothing passes between your brains while it happens, though, so put the hours in rather than waiting for the wiring.

The phrase about brains wiring together is a picture, and a lovely one. What is actually available to you is ordinary: the same room, the same walk…

LongerGrowing empathyBody basedQur’an 7:156

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