Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
3 practicesHow long you have
Who it is written for · My husband or wife
On your own, or with someone
Theme · What anger actually is
When · Any ordinary day
How you show anger was taught to you long before you had any say. Some households raise their voices and forget it by supper, others go quiet for three days.
Neither is health and neither is illness. They are rules, learned early enough that they feel like instinct. Saying yours out loud is the useful…
Your family had its own rules about anger, quite apart from anything cultural. Those are the ones that shaped you, and they can be renegotiated.
Name two of them plainly. Nobody leaves the table. Whoever shouts loudest wins. We do not mention it the next day. Then ask which you still want.…
Anger moves from person to person in a house, and so does steadiness. Working on your own reactions was never a private project.
You are one of the conditions everyone around you is responding to. When your fuse lengthens, the number of moments that turn into an incident drops…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.