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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Who it is written for · My husband or wife
A practitioner 16Me 12Someone I care about 11My husband or wife 2
Theme · Feelings and focus
Staying regulated in conflict 20Answering bids 9Affection and touch 6Knowing your partner 5Choosing your response 5Emotions as signals 5Your nervous system 3Listening and understanding 3The moment before you snap 2Feelings and focus 2Equanimity and perspective 2What you are actually defending 1Repair after rupture 1Shame 1The fear underneath anger 1Shared spiritual life 1
When · Under stress
After a row 10Any ordinary day 9Under stress 2Coming and going 2

A strong feeling makes the rest of your life go quiet for a while. That is when people resign, send the message, or start something they cannot undo, for reasons that seem good and are not enough.

So make a rule now, while it is calm, about which decisions are never made on the day: leaving a job, ending a relationship, spending a large amount,…

A minuteFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 23:97

A small annoyance can be steered. A full blaze cannot. Nearly all of the winnable work happens in the first thirty seconds, before the feeling has finished arriving.

Which means the skill to practise is noticing, not calming down. Learn your own early signs: the jaw, the hot face, talking faster, the flat voice,…

A minuteFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 50:16

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