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Practices

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Repair after rupture My husband or wife Under stress Clear all

Who it is written for · My husband or wife

Me 1 My husband or wife 1

Theme · Repair after rupture

Staying regulated in conflict 20 Answering bids 9 Affection and touch 6 Choosing your response 5 Emotions as signals 5 Knowing your partner 5 Listening and understanding 3 Your nervous system 3 The moment before you snap 2 Feelings and focus 2 Equanimity and perspective 2 What you are actually defending 1 The fear underneath anger 1 Shared spiritual life 1 Repair after rupture 1 Shame 1

When · Under stress

After a row 15 Any ordinary day 3 Under stress 1

Offer your spouse one clear reassurance today: I am here, we are okay.

When they wobble, say the steadying thing plainly rather than assuming they know.

A minuteRepair after ruptureEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:40

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