Practices

Two or three seconds is long enough to say the sentence that ends a job or a marriage. That is the whole reason such a small skill is worth this much practice.

The distance between what you can take back and what you cannot is very short. Most people already know their own worst line, the one that comes out…

Once it starts rolling, it gathers. A small exchange becomes a shouting match becomes something with consequences, and every step feels reasonable given the one before.

The cheapest place to stop is early, at the first sharp reply, long before you can see how far it has gone. Naming it out loud helps: "we are…

A face read quickly is a face read badly. Before you answer what you think you saw, allow that the flat look might be tiredness, or worry about something else entirely.

Faces get processed fast and with very little checking, which is why a neutral expression lands as contempt when you are already braced for it. If it…