Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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How long you have · Twenty minutes
Who it is written for · My husband or wife
Theme · Knowing your partner
Shared spiritual life 7Emotions as signals 6Staying regulated in conflict 5Feelings and focus 5Rituals of connection 4Repair after rupture 4Treatment and medication 3Choosing your response 3Rebuilding trust 3Knowing your partner 3Answering bids 2Get started 2What ADHD actually is 2Your nervous system 1What anger actually is 1The moment before you snap 1Shame 1Your sense of time 1Remembering to do it 1Systems for daily life 1Bringing the future closer 1
Approach
Tell your spouse about a raw spot, an old tender place that still gets touched.
When you go quiet I feel abandoned, like I did as a child. Name the ache, not the blame.
Ask one open question about their inner world tonight, and just listen to the whole answer.
What are you hoping for lately, what are you dreading. Questions with no single answer.
Ask your spouse about a moment from their childhood that shaped them, and listen closely.
What comfort felt like then, what they longed for. It still lives in how they love now.
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