Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

5 practices

What you are actually defending A minute A practitioner Clear all

How long you have · A minute

A minute 5 Five minutes 15 Twenty minutes 1 Longer 1

Who it is written for · A practitioner

Me 6 A practitioner 5 Someone I care about 5 My husband or wife 1

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 4 Struggling right now 1

Theme · What you are actually defending

The moment before you snap 34 Cool the body first 34 Choosing your response 30 Grounding and settling 28 What anger actually is 26 Your nervous system 25 Medication and how it works 24 Systems for daily life 23 The fear underneath anger 22 Get started 18 Bringing the future closer 18 Treatment and medication 18 Your sense of time 17 Equanimity and perspective 17 Practising under provocation 14 Making it stick 14 Structure and routine 14 Touch and bodywork 13 Growing empathy 13 Getting assessed and diagnosed 11 Food, caffeine and fuel 11 Feelings and focus 11 Breathing 9 Moving your body 9 When everything feels flat 9 Exercise, food and other supports 9 Being seen and judged 8 The cost of avoiding 8 Treatment and medication 8 What ADHD actually is 8 Tolerate distress 7 What worry does 6 Screens and attention 6 Shame and stigma 6 Emotions as signals 5 Remembering to do it 5 What you are actually defending 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 Feeling from the inside 5 Shame 5 Facing it a step at a time 3 When you use something to cope 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Self-compassion 3 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Question the thought 2 Breaking the worry loop 2 Panic and the body 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Rest and pacing 1 When you go numb 1 Letting it out safely 1

Approach

Mindfulness 3 Core 2

When

Under stress 3 Any ordinary day 2

Respect comes from the Latin for looking, with the prefix meaning again. It is literally the second look, the head that turns as somebody important walks past.

Knowing that does something useful. A word that felt close to sacred turns into a plain social behaviour you can examine: who gets looked at twice,…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 31:18

Disrespect is a paper tiger. It comes at you looking like something, and it has never once actually done you any damage.

Worth noticing what your body does anyway. The heart goes, the jaw sets, and you get ready as though something physical were about to happen. The…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 25:63

Anger and doubt cannot really occupy the same moment. Anger sharpens everything to a point, and a genuine maybe blunts it.

This is why an honest question does more than an argument. Not a challenge, which hardens things, but a real one: what if I have got part of this…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingMindfulnessQur’an 2:206

Your mind is always slightly behind what is happening. Reality moves and you are the response, which leaves you permanently a step late and permanently not quite sure.

Put that way, uncertainty is not a flaw in your thinking, it is the position you are standing in. You are flying into the next moment without having…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingMindfulnessQur’an 16:23

Not understanding what is happening frightens a person before it angers them. If you flare up when a situation is unclear, you are meeting something very old in yourself rather than a fault you invented.

Watch the order of it next time. First the blank, the not knowing what this means or where it is going, then a tightening in the chest or jaw, then…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingMindfulnessQur’an 17:36

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