Practices

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When anger turns to harm Twenty minutes A practitioner Clear all

How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 2 Five minutes 9 Twenty minutes 4

Who it is written for · A practitioner

A practitioner 4 Someone I care about 2 Me 2

On your own, or with someone

On my own 2 Both of us together 2

Theme · When anger turns to harm

Systems for daily life 37 Medication and how it works 30 Moving your body 26 Treatment and medication 18 Screens and attention 17 Getting assessed and diagnosed 17 What ADHD actually is 17 Get started 16 Feelings and focus 16 The cost of avoiding 15 Reading, numbers and learning differences 14 Your nervous system 14 Food, caffeine and fuel 11 Exercise, food and other supports 10 Your sense of time 9 What anger actually is 9 The moment before you snap 8 Bringing the future closer 8 Touch and bodywork 8 Shame 6 Emotions as signals 6 The fear underneath anger 6 Cool the body first 6 Tolerate distress 6 Breaking the worry loop 6 Grounding and settling 6 Remembering to do it 5 Breathing 5 When you use something to cope 5 Facing it a step at a time 5 When everything feels flat 5 Shame and stigma 5 What worry does 4 When anger turns to harm 4 Growing empathy 4 Choosing your response 4 Righteous anger and perfectionism 4 Anger, alcohol and the body 3 Structure and routine 3 Practising under provocation 3 Making it stick 3 Equanimity and perspective 3 Being seen and judged 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Letting it out safely 2 Use your strengths 2 Treatment and medication 1 Rest and pacing 1 Living with uncertainty 1 What you are actually defending 1 Question the thought 1

When someone introduces themselves as an abuser, take the word seriously without treating it as the finding. A label names a category of offence, not what is actually going on in them.

Some people arrive with the language of a programme or a court already fitted to them, and it closes down the question of what drives the behaviour…

Twenty minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 3:135

Some of what a person does to a partner is not defence and not temper. It is a script they watched at home, absorbed as ordinary, and never once held up to the light.

The tell is that it does not feel like a decision. There was no rush of heat and no sense of crossing a line, because at some level this is simply…

Twenty minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:19

Ask whether the anger is really about this person at all, or whether it is contempt for a whole category of people that happens to have someone standing nearby.

It sounds different once you listen for it. The complaints come out in the plural, about how women are or what wives do, and the particular person in…

Twenty minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 16:90

If the harm has only ever happened when someone had been drinking, the drinking is not the background to an anger problem. It is the anger problem.

Families often know this long before anyone says it aloud: he is fine, except. Go through it honestly, every incident, drunk or sober, and if…

Twenty minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:29

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