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When anger turns to harm Me Any ordinary day Clear all

Who it is written for · Me

A practitioner 6 Someone I care about 4 Me 2

Theme · When anger turns to harm

Medication and how it works 132Your nervous system 85 Systems for daily life 80 Get started 68 Food, caffeine and fuel 53 Your sense of time 52 The moment before you snap 49 What anger actually is 48 Moving your body 48 Choosing your response 45 Bringing the future closer 45 Exercise, food and other supports 41 Equanimity and perspective 36 Screens and attention 35 Grounding and settling 33 What ADHD actually is 33 The fear underneath anger 31 Touch and bodywork 31 Practising under provocation 30 Getting assessed and diagnosed 30 Feelings and focus 28 Growing empathy 28 Treatment and medication 28 When everything feels flat 27 Structure and routine 27 Being seen and judged 24 Cool the body first 23 Breathing 23 Shame and stigma 22 Making it stick 21 Remembering to do it 20 Knowing your partner 20 Treatment and medication 18 When you use something to cope 17 What worry does 17 Shared spiritual life 16 Feeling from the inside 15 Breaking the worry loop 15 Fondness and admiration 14 What you are actually defending 13 Facing it a step at a time 13 Answering bids 12 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Tolerate distress 11 Obsessions and compulsions 10 Righteous anger and perfectionism 10 Listening and understanding 10 Posture and how you carry yourself 9 Gratitude 9 Self-compassion 8 Emotions as signals 8 Use your strengths 8 Rituals of connection 7 Affection and touch 7 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Question the thought 6 Shame 5 Rebuilding trust 5 Living with uncertainty 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 When you go numb 3 The cost of avoiding 3 Rest and pacing 3 Repair after rupture 3 Meaning after harm 2 Act on your values 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Face it gently 2 Keep the bond 2 Get it out of your head 2 Work with your brain 2 Find meaning 2 Care for yourself in loss 1 Panic and the body 1 Listen to the body 1 Your window of tolerance 1 Reading, numbers and learning differences 1 Safety and grounding 1

When · Any ordinary day

Under stress 2 Any ordinary day 2 After a row 1

Some of what a person does to a partner is not defence and not temper. It is a script they watched at home, absorbed as ordinary, and never once held up to the light.

The tell is that it does not feel like a decision. There was no rush of heat and no sense of crossing a line, because at some level this is simply…

Twenty minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:19

If the harm has only ever happened when someone had been drinking, the drinking is not the background to an anger problem. It is the anger problem.

Families often know this long before anyone says it aloud: he is fine, except. Go through it honestly, every incident, drunk or sober, and if…

Twenty minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 4:29

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