Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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3 practices

When you go numb Me Any ordinary day Clear all

Who it is written for · Me

My husband or wife 3 Me 3 A practitioner 3

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 2 Coping, mostly 1

Theme · When you go numb

Medication and how it works 132Your nervous system 85 Systems for daily life 80 Get started 68 Food, caffeine and fuel 53 Your sense of time 52 The moment before you snap 49 What anger actually is 48 Moving your body 48 Bringing the future closer 45 Choosing your response 45 Exercise, food and other supports 41 Equanimity and perspective 36 Screens and attention 35 Grounding and settling 33 What ADHD actually is 33 Touch and bodywork 31 The fear underneath anger 31 Getting assessed and diagnosed 30 Practising under provocation 30 Growing empathy 28 Feelings and focus 28 Treatment and medication 28 When everything feels flat 27 Structure and routine 27 Being seen and judged 24 Cool the body first 23 Breathing 23 Shame and stigma 22 Making it stick 21 Remembering to do it 20 Knowing your partner 20 Treatment and medication 18 When you use something to cope 17 What worry does 17 Shared spiritual life 16 Feeling from the inside 15 Breaking the worry loop 15 Fondness and admiration 14 Facing it a step at a time 13 What you are actually defending 13 Answering bids 12 Tolerate distress 11 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Obsessions and compulsions 10 Righteous anger and perfectionism 10 Listening and understanding 10 Posture and how you carry yourself 9 Gratitude 9 Use your strengths 8 Self-compassion 8 Emotions as signals 8 Affection and touch 7 Rituals of connection 7 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Question the thought 6 Rebuilding trust 5 Shame 5 Repair after rupture 3 When you go numb 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 The cost of avoiding 3 Living with uncertainty 3 Rest and pacing 3 Act on your values 2 Meaning after harm 2 Keep the bond 2 Get it out of your head 2 Work with your brain 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Care for yourself in loss 1 Reading, numbers and learning differences 1 Listen to the body 1 Panic and the body 1 Safety and grounding 1 Your window of tolerance 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 3 After a row 1 When apart 1

When someone says they feel nothing, find out where the nothing reaches. All the time, or only towards good things, or only here, in this conversation, when criticism is in the air?

The three answers point in quite different directions. Numb everywhere, day and night, is worth taking to a doctor. Numb to good things while the bad…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 50:37

If a medicine has taken the edge off everything, including the good things, that is worth raising with whoever prescribed it. Taking the sharpness out of pain is one thing. Feeling nothing at all is not a way to live.

It matters practically as well as personally. Anything you are trying to change, in a relationship or in yourself, needs some feeling to work with,…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 6:122

Going still and needing nothing is usually something a person worked out young, somewhere it was the sensible answer.

If reaching out met dismissal, or worse, then not reaching out is not a flaw of character. A child who stops asking, stops showing what they feel and…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 57:16

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