Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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How long you have
Who it is written for · Me
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Exercise, food and other supports
Medication and how it works 132Your nervous system 85Systems for daily life 80Get started 68Food, caffeine and fuel 53Your sense of time 52The moment before you snap 49Moving your body 48What anger actually is 48Bringing the future closer 45Choosing your response 45Exercise, food and other supports 41Equanimity and perspective 36Screens and attention 35What ADHD actually is 33Grounding and settling 33The fear underneath anger 31Touch and bodywork 31Practising under provocation 30Getting assessed and diagnosed 30Growing empathy 28Feelings and focus 28Treatment and medication 28When everything feels flat 27Structure and routine 27Being seen and judged 24Cool the body first 23Breathing 23Shame and stigma 22Making it stick 21Remembering to do it 20Knowing your partner 20Treatment and medication 18What worry does 17When you use something to cope 17Shared spiritual life 16Feeling from the inside 15Breaking the worry loop 15Fondness and admiration 14Facing it a step at a time 13What you are actually defending 13Answering bids 12Staying regulated in conflict 11Tolerate distress 11Listening and understanding 10Obsessions and compulsions 10Righteous anger and perfectionism 10Gratitude 9Posture and how you carry yourself 9Use your strengths 8Emotions as signals 8Self-compassion 8Rituals of connection 7Affection and touch 7Anger, alcohol and the body 6Question the thought 6Shame 5Rebuilding trust 5Your worth is not conditional 3Rest and pacing 3Repair after rupture 3The cost of avoiding 3When you go numb 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Living with uncertainty 3Work with your brain 2Meaning after harm 2Act on your values 2Keep the bond 2Get it out of your head 2Find meaning 2Face it gently 2When anger turns to harm 2Listen to the body 1Care for yourself in loss 1Reading, numbers and learning differences 1Panic and the body 1Your window of tolerance 1Safety and grounding 1
When · Any ordinary day

There is no brain scan, EEG trace or blood test that can tell you whether someone has ADHD. Anything sold as an objective biological test for it is promising more than the science can give.

Group differences do exist, including in the theta to beta balance, but a difference that appears when you average hundreds of people cannot identify…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:247

Balance difficulties do turn up more often in ADHD, by something like half again. That is a fact about company, not about cause, and it does not turn balance training into a treatment.

Plenty of things could sit behind a link like that. More falls and knocks, more risk taken, or genetics feeding both at once. Working on balance…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:12

Try swapping the word picky for particular. A fair number of people with ADHD have more densely packed taste buds, so the bitterness in a sprout arrives at full volume.

That changes what is going on at the table. A child is not refusing in order to be difficult, they are tasting something stronger than you are.…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 80:24

The amount in a capsule can vary from bottle to bottle, and sometimes between capsules in the same bottle. Undeclared fillers have been found in them too.

This matters most when you are trying to work out whether something helps you. A good month followed by a flat one may be two different products…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:12

Kava can damage the liver at a high enough dose, badly enough that some countries have banned it. Herbal is not a synonym for gentle.

The unnerving part is how quiet liver damage is. Someone self medicating anxiety with kava can be accumulating harm and feel nothing at all until it…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 20:81

Vitamin C cannot really be stockpiled, since the excess leaves in your urine. A, D, E and K are stored in fat, so a large daily dose keeps adding to itself.

Vitamin D is where this bites at the moment, after a lot of people started taking big amounts on their own during the pandemic years. If you are…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 7:31

Omega supplements thin the blood, so they usually do not belong alongside warfarin. Bruising easily is often the first thing anyone notices.

One clinician worked out that her husband's bruising came from taking omegas on top of his Coumadin, and it settled once his doctor told him to stop.…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 73:20

If fish oil gives you those horrible repeats all afternoon, that is a fixable problem rather than a reason to stop. Keep the capsules in the freezer, ask about an enteric coated version, or try a flavoured liquid.

Sticking with something usually fails for small unglamorous reasons like this. Someone with a sensitive palate will not last four weeks with an…

A minuteExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

Neurofeedback rests on a tidy idea: in ADHD the slower theta rhythm shows up when the faster beta rhythm should be running, so the training rewards you for shifting the balance. Knowing the idea is worth a few minutes, because it is what the brochure is built on.

Electrodes sit on the scalp, a screen animates when the signal moves the wanted way, and the person practises staying in a state of relaxed…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 3:191

Ask what happens after the course ends, not only what happens during it. A gain that fades once the sessions stop was probably never a change in the person.

Neurofeedback tends to look decent while it is being delivered and then drift back, and the studies that followed people afterwards did not find…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:11

When you read that a treatment worked, look for who judged the improvement and whether they knew what the child had been given. In much of this literature, they knew.

The design to look for is a sham condition, where everybody goes through the same routine and only some receive the active ingredient, with the…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 55:8

Brain training games make you better at the game. Sadly, that improvement tends to stay inside the game.

Sorting shapes faster or planning a conveyor belt more smoothly comes from learning the task, not from stretching a capacity, so the classroom and…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 53:39

Programmes built on tones through headphones and balance drills have not been shown to help ADHD. If a child does seem steadier during them, the likeliest reason is that something is occupying the part of them that goes looking for stimulation.

That effect is real enough, and it is cheap to get elsewhere. A walk, a job with the hands, background sound they choose themselves, all of it…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:153

If someone has genuine positional vertigo, get it treated, and do not expect the treatment to touch their ADHD. Both things can be true at the same time.

Benign paroxysmal positional vertigo often follows a sinus infection or a bang to the head, and it responds well to repositioning manoeuvres that…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

Several professional bodies came together to say that vision therapy is not a treatment for ADHD. A joint statement like that is unusual, and it is worth quoting to a family word for word.

Convergence problems, where the eyes struggle to work together on something close up, are a little more common in ADHD and deserve treating in their…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 10:67

Turn the socks inside out so the seam sits away from the toes, cut the label out and print the size onto the fabric instead, and look at seamless clothing. These cost pennies against a course of therapy and they work by teatime.

A scratchy seam or a stiff tag is a small thing that keeps announcing itself all day, and every announcement takes a piece of attention with it.…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 7:31

Weight across the body settles a lot of people and sends some of them to sleep quickly. It is a preference though, not a remedy, and for others it feels like being closed in.

If you try it, watch what actually happens rather than what is supposed to happen. Some people have wanted pressure, small dark spaces and being…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 25:47

Since 1994, supplements have not had to satisfy a regulator before going on sale. Nobody checked the bottle in your hand the way they check a prescription.

The gap is wider than most people expect. Drug factories get unannounced inspections and can be shut down on the spot; supplement makers do not face…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 5:88

Natural is not a regulated word: anyone can print it next to a picture of a leaf, on anything at all. Organic in the USDA sense does have a legal definition sitting behind it.

The same goes for the reassuring line about following good manufacturing practices, which describes what a company aims at rather than what an…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:168

Kava, valerian, St John's wort, ginkgo, ginseng and the proprietary blends have not shown benefit for ADHD in trials that matched the amount in every capsule and kept both the person handing them out and the person rating behaviour unaware of who got what.

Those two design details are most of the story. Ordinary use has dose wobble and expectation running through it, and expectation is powerful,…

Five minutesExercise, food and other supportsMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:27

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