Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

7 practices

Rituals of connection Me Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 3 Twenty minutes 3

Who it is written for · Me

Me 7 My husband or wife 7

Theme · Rituals of connection

Medication and how it works 132Your nervous system 85 Systems for daily life 80 Get started 68 Food, caffeine and fuel 53 Your sense of time 52 The moment before you snap 49 Moving your body 48 What anger actually is 48 Choosing your response 45 Bringing the future closer 45 Exercise, food and other supports 41 Equanimity and perspective 36 Screens and attention 35 What ADHD actually is 33 Grounding and settling 33 The fear underneath anger 31 Touch and bodywork 31 Getting assessed and diagnosed 30 Practising under provocation 30 Feelings and focus 28 Growing empathy 28 Treatment and medication 28 When everything feels flat 27 Structure and routine 27 Being seen and judged 24 Cool the body first 23 Breathing 23 Shame and stigma 22 Making it stick 21 Remembering to do it 20 Knowing your partner 20 Treatment and medication 18 What worry does 17 When you use something to cope 17 Shared spiritual life 16 Feeling from the inside 15 Breaking the worry loop 15 Fondness and admiration 14 What you are actually defending 13 Facing it a step at a time 13 Answering bids 12 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Tolerate distress 11 Obsessions and compulsions 10 Righteous anger and perfectionism 10 Listening and understanding 10 Gratitude 9 Posture and how you carry yourself 9 Self-compassion 8 Emotions as signals 8 Use your strengths 8 Affection and touch 7 Rituals of connection 7 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Question the thought 6 Rebuilding trust 5 Shame 5 Your worth is not conditional 3 When you go numb 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Living with uncertainty 3 Rest and pacing 3 The cost of avoiding 3 Repair after rupture 3 Get it out of your head 2 Keep the bond 2 Find meaning 2 Act on your values 2 Face it gently 2 Meaning after harm 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Work with your brain 2 Care for yourself in loss 1 Safety and grounding 1 Reading, numbers and learning differences 1 Panic and the body 1 Listen to the body 1 Your window of tolerance 1

Approach

Core 3 Emotionally focused 2 Gottman 2

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 7 Coming and going 5 Something good 1

Say plainly when you are here and for how long, so they never have to guess.

Naming your presence is a small gift that removes the guesswork of whether you are reachable.

A minuteRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 17:34

Keep one daily moment to reconnect, a few minutes that are only about the two of you.

Morning coffee, the walk, the goodnight. A small daily island of us.

Five minutesRituals of connectionEmotionally focusedQur’an 25:62

Choose one small daily ritual and protect it this week. Same time, phones away.

The morning tea, the evening walk, the goodnight. Small, repeated, only yours.

Five minutesRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 25:62

Go to bed at the same time tonight.

Small shared rhythms, sleeping and waking and eating together, are the scaffolding of closeness.

Five minutesRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 30:21

Once this week, sit together unhurried and share one feeling and one reassurance.

Not logistics. How are we really, and what do you need from me. A regular heart to heart.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionEmotionally focusedQur’an 30:21

Share one meal today with nothing else happening, no screen, no rush.

Undivided attention over something ordinary is a small daily ritual of belonging.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 4:19

Keep a weekly date, just the two of you, to keep learning each other with open questions.

A regular two hours together, asking about dreams and hopes, keeps your map of each other current.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 25:74

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