Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

8 practices

Self-compassion Me Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 3 Five minutes 4 Longer 1

Who it is written for · Me

Me 8 A practitioner 7 Someone I care about 7

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 6 Getting ready for something 1 Struggling right now 1

Theme · Self-compassion

Medication and how it works 132Your nervous system 85 Systems for daily life 80 Get started 68 Food, caffeine and fuel 53 Your sense of time 52 The moment before you snap 49 Moving your body 48 What anger actually is 48 Choosing your response 45 Bringing the future closer 45 Exercise, food and other supports 41 Equanimity and perspective 36 Screens and attention 35 Grounding and settling 33 What ADHD actually is 33 Touch and bodywork 31 The fear underneath anger 31 Practising under provocation 30 Getting assessed and diagnosed 30 Growing empathy 28 Treatment and medication 28 Feelings and focus 28 When everything feels flat 27 Structure and routine 27 Being seen and judged 24 Breathing 23 Cool the body first 23 Shame and stigma 22 Making it stick 21 Remembering to do it 20 Knowing your partner 20 Treatment and medication 18 What worry does 17 When you use something to cope 17 Shared spiritual life 16 Breaking the worry loop 15 Feeling from the inside 15 Fondness and admiration 14 Facing it a step at a time 13 What you are actually defending 13 Answering bids 12 Tolerate distress 11 Staying regulated in conflict 11 Listening and understanding 10 Obsessions and compulsions 10 Righteous anger and perfectionism 10 Posture and how you carry yourself 9 Gratitude 9 Use your strengths 8 Self-compassion 8 Emotions as signals 8 Affection and touch 7 Rituals of connection 7 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Question the thought 6 Rebuilding trust 5 Shame 5 Living with uncertainty 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Rest and pacing 3 Repair after rupture 3 When you go numb 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 The cost of avoiding 3 Meaning after harm 2 Keep the bond 2 Get it out of your head 2 Act on your values 2 Find meaning 2 When anger turns to harm 2 Work with your brain 2 Face it gently 2 Your window of tolerance 1 Listen to the body 1 Panic and the body 1 Safety and grounding 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Reading, numbers and learning differences 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 8 In a change 2 Under stress 2

The aim was never to stop needing the aids. It is to find ways round the parts that do not work well, and then to keep using them.

People tend to treat the alarms, the lists, the whiteboard by the door as scaffolding they ought to take down eventually. That is usually why it all…

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 4:28

Everyone has something about themselves they wish were different, and something they cannot do reliably however much they mean to. Yours has a name and a good deal of research behind it, which is not the same as being uniquely broken.

Say this carefully, because there is a careless version that does real damage. Everyone is a bit ADHD is not what is meant, and it leaves a person…

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 20:115

When you fall off task, restart without the pile-on. Talk to yourself like a good coach, not a critic.

The lost hour is gone; the next one is not. Skip the self-attack and just begin again.

A minuteSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 2:286

It rarely stays a matter of attention. The difficulties shape what you come to believe about yourself, that colours how you are with the people closest to you, and their responses feed straight back into the original trouble.

Discouraging to read, and genuinely useful, because it means there are three places to work and they are not equally stuck. The wiring is the hardest…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 2:186

There is a difference between having ADHD and being ADHD. It sounds like word games until you notice which one you are living in.

Being it means the condition runs everything and explains everything, and there is a quiet relief in that which is hard to give up. Having it means…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 53:32

Work properly at the parts that can be managed, then be at peace with what is left over. The order matters more than it sounds.

Peace offered before any real effort is giving up with better vocabulary, and it never quite convinces the person saying it. Effort with no end point…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 22:78

Every list, timer and rule exists to buy you a life worth having. If the systems have quietly become the point, something has turned the wrong way round.

It is easy to end up managing your ADHD as a full time occupation and calling that recovery. A better test of a week is whether it held anything you…

Five minutesSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 7:156

Nothing here does the job on its own. Medication if it suits you, a few practical systems, something for the low mood and shame that has built up, and the people you live with brought into it.

The practical layer is the easiest to describe and the first to fall over, because whether you use a system at all depends on how you feel about…

LongerSelf-compassionADHD skillsQur’an 2:153

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