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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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How long you have
A minute 1Five minutes 1Twenty minutes 1
Who it is written for · Me
A practitioner 10Someone I care about 9Me 3
Where you are right now
Struggling right now 2Coping, mostly 1
On your own, or with someone
Involves someone else 2On my own 1
Theme · The cost of avoiding
The moment before you snap 32Cool the body first 30Grounding and settling 29Choosing your response 28Touch and bodywork 22Staying regulated in conflict 20Your nervous system 19What anger actually is 18Equanimity and perspective 15The fear underneath anger 15Feelings and focus 12Tolerate distress 11Breathing 10Answering bids 9Systems for daily life 9Feeling from the inside 8Practising under provocation 8Moving your body 8Medication and how it works 7What worry does 7Shame 6Affection and touch 6Bringing the future closer 6Breaking the worry loop 6Making it stick 6Question the thought 5Food, caffeine and fuel 5Knowing your partner 5When everything feels flat 5Treatment and medication 5What you are actually defending 5Getting assessed and diagnosed 4Shame and stigma 4Posture and how you carry yourself 4Letting it out safely 4Emotions as signals 4Get started 4Growing empathy 4Safety and grounding 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Screens and attention 3Exercise, food and other supports 3Obsessions and compulsions 3Name what you feel 3Working with anger 3Listening and understanding 3Let the wave come 3Facing it a step at a time 3Calm the body 3Being seen and judged 3The cost of avoiding 3Rebuild trust 2Patience and trust 2Self-compassion 2Ride the urge 2Meaning after harm 2When anger turns to harm 2Your sense of time 2When you use something to cope 2Structure and routine 1Panic and the body 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Treatment and medication 1Validate yourself and others 1Rest and pacing 1What ADHD actually is 1Repair after rupture 1Your window of tolerance 1Care for yourself in loss 1Listen to the body 1Remembering to do it 1Act on your values 1Shared spiritual life 1
When · Under stress
Any ordinary day 3Under stress 3Coming and going 1

Avoiding something makes today easier and tomorrow harder. Say that plainly, to yourself and to whoever is in it with you.

Without that sentence, asking someone to face a frightening thing looks like cruelty, and every conversation about it goes badly. With it, the choice…

A minuteThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 62:8

Some people are not scared of the day, they are flattened by it. Staying home lifts the weight for an hour, then removes the few good things the day still held.

Low mood makes school heavy rather than dangerous: no energy, no interest, everything asking too much. Staying away helps at first and then takes…

Five minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 94:7

When the fear is about being seen, being asked, being judged, you can build the steps out of real moments: the doorway, the corridor, the dining hall, answering once in a lesson.

Fear of a whole building cannot be practised. Fear of walking into the dining hall at half past twelve can. Make each step small enough to be boring…

Twenty minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 90:11

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